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writes:My boyfriend went away for the weekend, when he returned he admitted he had an issue with me speaking with an ex of mine ( he speaks regulary to a few of his exs, and this ex of mine is the only one ive maintained contact with we were good friends prior to us seeing each other), he said he didnt trust his intentions, I reacted by telling my ex the truth and suggesting we didnt speak to each other for a while, as i have always maintained that someones feelings comes first, my ex would rather not cause trouble, and my boyfriend was clearly bothered about it, so i cut contact.However I have two issues, I have had a problem with a girl he was seeing a while back for a long time, as we once split up because he nearly ended up sleeping with her, and have told him this but not made a massive fuss cos i didnt feel it was fair, am i in my right to bring up the fact it bothers me?Also, the weekend he went on was a lads weekend, and i find it slightly weird he has suddenly decided he dislikes it after coming back from there, I am a bit suspicious of the reasons for him suddenly throwing a wobbler over it, as he has been very touchy feely since he returned and this isnt normalshould I be suspicious?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): You should both talk about this what bothers you and him,you should reinforce that you don't have any interest in your ex but only as a friend, it sounds to me like he has been talking to his mates,or is thinking if he almost cheated on you that you could do the same, also if he can not understand this he doesn't trust you, I know this sound corny but a good relasionship is based on trust.don't let him bully you into breaking ties with your friends male or female.
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reader, bagsy81 +, writes (5 August 2008):
I think you need to talk to him about your suspicions. Even if nothing has happened you being suspicious is going to satrt to slowly wind you up.
I think he has a flat out cheek insisting upon you ending your friendship with an ex when he is still in contact with his.
I think allot of the times our gut can be right but our heart just doen't want to admit it. Good Luck XXX
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 Sweetie, from what you have said it sounds like your boyfriend thinks its okay for him to chat to ex's but its not okay for you to chat to your ex. Its a 2-way street here - and you need to sit down and talk with him. If you are going to be a couple then he too must respect your requests.
Honeygirl
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