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writes:My boyfriend and I are having some issues. He thinks its his job to parent me on chores. I have been doing better to remind myself to do things since I also have other things I focus on like school, and job hunting. He says I have gotten better then before, yet he gets moods and then says I am not doing better in relation to chores. Is this normal male behavior? He also is upset that I have sleeping issue and don't go to bed the same time as he does, is this really an issue or something else? Reply to this Question
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 It's not a male behavior, it's part of his personality. My guess is that he's either a "Perfect Melancholy" or a "Powerful Choleric". (Know that no one is 100% of one personality type)
A Perfect Melancholy like stuff to be done his own way.
A Powerful Choleric likes to take charge of things. Likes to be a leader, will tend to give orders. (More chances that it's this one)
(Simple way to put it)
Maybe the reason why you take a stand when he says something like that is because you both have one of those
personalities in common.
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Another "Powerful Choleric" would stand because he wants to be leader too.
A "Perfect Melancholy" would stand because he would think his way is better.
A "Popular Sanguine" would probably make fun of the situation while a "Peaceful Phlegmatic" would just go along and do it.
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If you learn more about personalities, and truly find what personality he is, you'll be able to play along more. To understand the "whys" instead of blaming him for doing what he does.
I had a sleeping issue caused by a eating disorder (Not enough veggies/fruit in my diet) or maybe you just can't stand to sleep next to him anymore.
Remember that life is not about finding a perfect person but to love an imperfect person perfectly.
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reader, bluntasaspoon  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 ok then. here goes.... tell him straight to stop treating u like a child. and remind him that u are not his daughter. also ask him why he is treating u like this.
i think that it is really wierd behaviour, especially from a man, normally its us women who are asking them to help tidy and to come to bed the same time as we do, not the other way round lol. try explaining to him how u feel and also a good way to avoid a major argument is to say at the begining of the conversation that u 2 are not having an argument and if either of u start to feel aggressive, angry, shouty or anything like that agree to tell the other person to stop, go make a cup of tea or take the dog for a walk or to somehow remove themself from out the room for a few mins untill u both calm doqwn and then resume the conversation.
hope this helps
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