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writes:In March this year I started talking online to a guy. It turned out that he was the year above me at school and lived 2 minutes walk from my house. (he had changed so much I didnt recognise him).We met up a month later and got on like a house on fire. The first week he came round 5 times. There was always something I couldnt quite put my finger on about him. 3 weeks ago our casual relationship jumped forward and he told me that the house he lives in is owned by him and his ex. I know for sure that she isnt still living there.I have fallen head over heels for this guy and I do love him. He has told me loads of times that he loves me too.Things are very awkward with his ex and they didnt part on good terms. Somehow she has found out that he has been seeing me and the ex has been creating lots of grief for him.He has now told me that he cant do the whole boyfriend girlfreind thing, not that Ive asked for that, but still wants to come round and see me. I know it looks like he his having his cake and eating it but its not like we have sex everytime we see each other. I just dont know what to do for the best!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 August 2008):
Well I think in this case there is not a lot different he could do.
He could either cut contact with you completely for the sake of an ex girlfriend and lose out on what could be something great with you - or he could be your boyfriend and have his life made financialy hellish by his ex.
I'd have a chat about how things are with his ex and find out what his long term intentions are. Help him do up the house to sell so he can split the cash with his ex and be free of her. She won't be around forever and after she is out the way you will know if he wants to get together with you or whether he really has been stringing you along.
Good Luck!! xx
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