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writes:hi there i have a peculiar problem..my boyfriend doesnt want to go down on me..he makes me do it to him... he says hes never done it to another girl..though hes had sex a lot...i cant understand..he thinks im a sex addict..theres nothing wrong with me...or is there?hes tried but he gets scared n i have no clue of what..cos he makes it a point to make me go down on him,,im frustrated!!!!!!!1how should i get him to do it..its normal i love it..i want him to enjoy it foreplay is important he jsut wants to get it on n do it his way i hate it..i never get aroused,,HELP ME WHAT SHOULD I DO?D
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reader, sweetontweety7777  +, writes (5 September 2008):
 its called "selfishness", honey. he is like the little boy in the school yard who wants you to share your toys but he don't want to share his. if he can't "man up" and share the pleasure with you, you need to do some thinking. love is about give and take. not just take take take take take. there are many things that can be done if he don't like the taste, or whatever. but if you continue to satisfy him and he just sits back and enjoys, it will never stop. he is getting his cake and eating it too. make him work for it. sorry to be so harsh. not slamming you, just really touches a soft spot in me. if you are in love, its a "two way highway". good luck honey
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): He's a BOY not a man. A real man knows how to please a woman, not just with his hands or penis but with his mouth aswell!!! Shame on him too for making you go down on him. Don't do it again till he does the same for you! It would be a disgrace for you too. Stand up for yourself as a woman, dammit.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (4 September 2008):
 Stop going down on him, tell him its a 2 way thing and if he is not even prepared to try it then you aint gonna do it either!! You need to talk to him about this too and find out what he is scared of x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): I recently started "giving face." I also was scared at first. I had no idea what to do, so I read up on it. I wanted to make my partner very happy. My first time in, I didn't think I was doing very well until she came. It was the best orgasm of her life.
As for getting him to do it. Well, just reassure him that it's no big deal, and that the sex afterwards will be better. (Trust me -- it will be) You could douche it and make sure it's extra clean, because that will make it easier to do it. Once you get him to do it once, he'll be more likely to do it again and again. Just don't criticize how he does it. Tell him when he's down there... guide him. Harder, softer, up, down, left, right, suck, lick, circles... guide him through his first few times and then you won't have to say a thing.
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reader, sticky_fun +, writes (4 September 2008):
 There are other ways of getting aroused. I had the same problem with my ex. You should try other things...we all have sensitive parts of our body (other than the obvious) that when identified can be used to arouse. Such as the ears. Yes silly maybe i know but it does work for some people.
When your guy is turned on his breathing probably will get heavier, which can be a turn on if his mouth happens to be close to your ear. Also, if you get him to playfully bite your ear that does tend to work for some people too. But obviously thats not enough to fully arouse anyone.
I think talking about it may help you. Ask him precisely what is stopping him from going down on you. Make him feel comfortable about it, and give him some confidence. Then he may give in. But you are certainly NOT a sex addict or abnormal to want your guy to do this for you.
Hope this helped =) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): HelloI say the solution is a ban on you doing the same for him until he reciprocates. I suspect the real reason is that he may be inexperienced in oral sex and a bit shy, perhaps he is worried he won't be able to satisfy you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): Get in the 69 position with him, and tell him that you'll go down on him as long as he pleasures you too.
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reader, perry1  +, writes (4 September 2008):
There is nothing wrong w/ you. We all love foreplay, I think!!! Have you ever asked him why he doesn't? Do a romantic set up, flower pedals on the bed, wine, music playing, candles lit, sexy lingerie, the works!! then you start on him, not sure what you like to do, but, how bout then you tie him up and slowly let him taste you, you might even want to try w/ some edible things. Anyways if he doesn't give in then, and it's something you really want, I would seriously sit him down and talk to him seriuosly about it. But trust me when I tell you, there is nothing wrong with wanting him to please you, but also in his defense, he just might not like doing that, so it is up to you how you handle it. good luck....write me if you wish w/ an update!!!!
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (4 September 2008):
 He obviously doesnt want to do it so hes trying to make you feel bad when you ask him to do it...but darlin it is totally normal to want it...your not an adict your a normal sexual women. Try and turn him on with it...tell him how you feel when he does it and make it sound so hot that he cant refuse to say no...its only fair if youre sorting him out that he should return the favour!
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