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writes:Please give me advice! My boyfriend who wants to marry me next year is telling me he is happy with me or without me. Why would he say something like that? Is it because he doesn't love me? I can't get the answer. Please you might have good answer for me. Should I still marry him if we're completely opposite. I love him so much and don't know how to get over him. Please advise me. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): Don't marry him. Marry someone who 'can't live without you'. Sounds like this guy could be 'waiting for something better to come along'.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (4 March 2011):
 looks like ur showing him u love him WAY TOO MUCH? Ur clingy?
Either way,what he said ISN'T THE RIGHT THING TO SAY TO YOUR FUTURE WIFE.
Don't you want a man who is head over heels for ya?
I was in this store 2 months ago, and the owner gave me this advice . She said " My husband is a nice man...and I'm happily married but If I could turn back time,I'd go for a man who was crazy about me. My husband never was"
umm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. He just means he's independent enough to be without you, he's got enough self confidence to be on his own, it's not a bad thing and it doesn't reflect on your relationship, if he was unhappy WITH you, then you should be worried. Appriciate his honesty and appreciate the fact you've got a guy with his feet on the ground.
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (4 March 2011):
What he said is weird, like something he should not have said has slipped out of his mouth. Talk about it with him, and dont fall for silly excuses like "I actually meant to say xyz". Unconsiously or consiously he said that for a reason. Find out why and break up if you must.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Well you should get the answer from him - an answer that sets all your questions to rest.
He might, I suppose, be saying that he's a happy person in and of himself, who doesn't depend on anything outside of himself for happiness. Some sort of Bhuddist thing. Is he a spiritual kind of guy?
Or he's telling you in a less spiritual way that you don't matter.
You seriously need to communicate before you commit to marriage.
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