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writes:Whats happening to my relationship. Hi there my boyfriend of almost a year, suffers from very bad depression. At first he used to be very loving and affectionate, untill the last few months he doesnt text, call, or make any kind of a effort. When i see him he is moody and quiet, and only seems to focus on his depression and nothing else. I find it so hard and it really upsets me, we spend less time together, and when i ask if all is ok he says He loves me, and thinks Im being paranoid for asking - but he doesnt realise how this all effects me! It feels like he doesnt want us to be together anymore, but he swears thats not the case. I have no experience with depression - is this normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2012): I know how you feel right now i am dealing with the same thing with my boyfriend. We have been together for almost 6 months and it is so difficult because we live so many states appart. I am on the process of moving to the same state and he started saying just recently if i wasn't so far apart maybe his depression wouldn't be so hard on him. I really try to reasure him i will be there soon and i will be there for him but, i feel so bad for both of us. I know when he goes through his depression because he doesn't call me and txt me and that drives me crazy. I travel alot with my job and it is so difficult to be working and thinking of him.If i didn't love him so much i would have walked away from this relationship but, he means the world to me.I always try to reasure him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): yes this is very normal and could go on for a while , you need to support him the best you can and not feel this way as it will meake him worse ,, my boyfriend is the same and has been for the last four years it can get you down ,,but if it does dont let him know as he will then feel more of a burdon
chin up hun , he will defo love but depressed people can not show that kind of affection that we do
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (15 September 2008):
 Hi HunnyIf your b/f is going through a very bad depression it can cause distance from reality lack of concentration and alsorts of painfull thought patterns love. He is right when he says its not you, I have found you a link to read..It also has a related article helping a depressed person which may help you alot..Also reading what he may be feeling will help you understand what he may be going through at this time......http://helpguide.org/mental/depression_signs_types_diagnosis_treatment.htmIt is very hard for you at this moment as being with a depressed partner can also get you down, All sorts of feelings and thought will be going through your head hunny, I do hope this link help you and I hope things get better for you both very soon TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): You need to sit down and talk. Tell him how you are feeling, and how its effecting you. Tell me what you think could be wrong, without asking him.
Keep me updated
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