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writes:My boyfiend isnt the type of man to buy newspapers with women in, or magazines ect. and is not a womaniser. However ive noticed in the supermarket for example that he glances over at attractive girls, he doesnt ogle but i see him look,maybe once. sometimes twice. Does this mean he likes them? or hes just seen them? as hes got eyes. Sometimes i feel really hurt. And some of his members of staff at work read the papers with half dressed women (you know the stuff i mean) and i wonder if he looks at them ? i worry he does.i wish i didnt bother me but i would be lying if i said it didnt. Sometimes ive waited in the car for him when we have been places cus i dont wanna know what girls are there and if he might look and like them.
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reader, eddie +, writes (24 July 2007):
 What do you mean does he like them? How can he like them when he doesn't even know them? He likes you. Does he find them attractive? 100 per cent yes. And what is the problem with that?
Think of a man you find to be attractive, apart from your boyfriend. Don't say you can't think of anybody because that's not true. OK, so you've thought of a guy...does that mean you like him? Or does that mean you don't like your boyfriend? Of course not. It means there is another attractive package of the male human species in the world. Is that surprising? Did you think you had the only one? Was the last guy you dated attractive? If he was then he probably still is.
You see, it's always possible that you could like someone else. People marry and remarry all the time. How do we control that potential problem? The best way is to maintain the relationship you've got and to make yourself appealing to your mate. Don't give them reasons to ever go beyond the looking stage with another person. Attractions are normal and will always happen, for both of you. It's possible yours hasn't happened yet. It will though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): I feel the same way - its only a problem if they really gawp as this is just bad manners to be honest and a little disrespectful of the company he's in. You want the attention yeah? The thing is you have to admit its nice to get stares, whistles etc from other blokes? We all notice attractive people both male and female. It is normal and healthy - the hormones are still working. My Mum told my Dad off once for staring at some woman he replied with "You want to worry when I stop looking". Enough said :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): Honey you are being way too insecure! I feel the same way sometimes but you just have to realize its your own insecurities and that you don't need to worry. He's with you isn't he? If he was truly interested in other girls, he would be trying to pursue them. I am a very insecure person, especially in relationships so I know exactly where your coming from, but I've learned to pick my battles. Try to look at it this way..if he's looking at other girls, which as you stated he ovbiously does because he has eyes and they are just rampant, then he must like what he sees in you better than what he sees in any of them because he chose to be with you! Let me know how things work out and if you need to talk. best wishes
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reader, GreenTea  +, writes (24 July 2007):
Well I'm going to assume you've seen a movie. Yeah cause im risky like that.Whenever a "hot" actor comes on screen you more than likely ogle him. it doesn't really mean anything to you. that feeling you get when you do that is the same he gets when he looks at other women. You can talk to him about it but I think your just kind of nit picking.Message me if ya need to-Tea
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