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writes: My boyfriend slept with my sister before we dated. I have some trouble forgiving him still. I'm not sure if I can move on from this and forgive him. Am I making this a bigger deal than it is? I haven't been with them in the same room together yet and I fear that it will be akward. I don't know what to do. Please offer any advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): Hi, im in the same situation... i slept with my boyfrien's brother... he knows but im not sure he can get over it. weve been together for 3 yrs now.... and still he always manages to keep his brother and i separate anyway he can
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2006): I know something of how you feel my girlfriend slept with my best friend before we got together and it although i trust the pair of them and love them dearly it still crosses my mind sometime.... but you cant worry about it... It's not worth you upsetting your self over
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reader, bonym  +, writes (30 August 2006):
 Sorry I meant to say "your" sister not "his" sister. Accept my apologies for that typo! xx
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reader, bonym +, writes (30 August 2006):
I am a bit puzzled as to why this man needs forgiveness, he hasnt cheated on you. Unless he is Psychic and forsaw that he would date you after his sister he really hasnt done anything wrong. I can understand that you may feel a bit funny that your sister has been intimate with your partner, but that was in the past, you are the present and the future,so why let it trouble you. He is with you and not your sister, there is no problem. Take care. xXx
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reader, Nicolaxx +, writes (30 August 2006):
I agree completely with Pete.
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reader, Rachx +, writes (30 August 2006):
If you want to be with this guy you have to move on from this. My Sister is married with 2 children to a guy I slept with before they got together - the way she saw it was they were not dating they had no relationship and therefore noone was in the wrong. Your boyf hasnt actually done anything wrong as you were not dating when he did this. I suggest you try to deal with this and move on otherwise it will ruin what may be the perfect relationship for you. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): What's to forgive?
Your boyfriend didn't know he was going to be in a relationship with you when he slept with her, did he? so how did he do any thing wrong?
You need to understand that in order to move on. Having said that, I would be a little strange knowing a girlfriend slept with my brother.
If it's a problem for you, break up. Why put yourself through heartache when you can be with someone else who doesn't have this uncomfortable past?
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