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writes: My boyfriend's friends all aged 20 never had steady girlfriends and so visited the Gum clinic maybe every 6 months. To my surprise my boyfriend also went along. I thought once was ok but any time his mates went he also got checked out too. He never hid the fact that he'd got checked but when i questioned him he said he was just making sure all was ok. My instinct tells me that he wouldn't have got checked if there hadn't been other girls? I'm just puzzled that he never hid telling me and so not sure what to believe?? What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, bonym  +, writes (30 August 2006):
 I agree with Wendyg, how much do your trust your boyfriend? Apart from visiting the GUM clinic has he given you any other reason to be suspicious of him? If the answer is no they maybe you are reading into it too much, a relationship is built on trust, so if he says he is faithful, then you have to belive him unless there is other evidence that he is cheating. Take care. xXx
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (30 August 2006):
 It all comes down to you trusting him. I can understand you are a little taken a back and alarmed, but well he hasnt hidden the fact from you. Would seem odd that a guy went along to GUM clinic if he were not to be tested but maybe he just went with them ? Might not be getting checked ? Or has he got something that needed to be checked from ages ago and wants to make sure its okay ? I mean GUM clinics are not always for sexually transmitted dieseaes, men can go and have lumps checked out and the like and woman can also have tests done, such as smears and things like that. This is a stab in the dark, hes not donating sperm is he ? Some people do this for money .. just a wild stab that one! I think you need to come out and ask him, i dont think him going there is your soul concern, its more over that he has got this group of friends that are free and easy and are not tied to one girl and your having a bit of trouble trusting anyway... You need to discuss your fears with your bf, ask him why he goes to the clinic, and dont automatically assume its a bad reason. Allbeit, it does seem odd, if he were hiding sleeping around from you then I would have almost certainly thought he would have hidden from you the fact that he goes with the guys to the GUM clinic, as that would could suspicion as it is doing now... unless maybe another spin on it, he is totally faithful to you but as male ego goes he hasnt told his mates that, and they think he is still jack the lad ? and he goes along for appearances ? now i dont know him you do, in your heart what do you think is happening, ive tried to give you a couple of alternatives, that may seem odd but well have a think about it and speak to him first before jumping to the conclusion hes cheating. I hope that he isntfor your sake, but the only way to know is to ask why he still goes, dont jump in accusingly just ask out of curiosity why he goes and see what his answer is.
Let me know what happens.
Take care x x
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