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writes: My boyfriend has two kids, one by me and one by his ex. his ex decided to move to another state now he wants to drop our home and jobs that supports our child to hang out with his other son can you help?
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 He has the right to want to be a part of his other son's life too. He's really not choosing one child over the other. I know it may look that way but it's really not. If you don't want to move, tell him. Advise him to get a court order to contest his ex being allowed to move HIS child to another state. There are laws against this especially if he pays child support and his name is on the child's birth certificate. I don't know how it works in your state but I don't think you have to pay for legal counsel...look up family courts and call a non-emergency police line since they can give you more advise on what to do. The ex wants to move but when you share a child with an active father, there has to either compromise or things are left as they are.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 September 2010):
You've got to accept that he wants to be around his other son. That's not him choosing the his other over yours. That's him wanting to be a good father, which is the right thing to do. If you don't want to move, say so. But give some very good reasons. Because if you don't move, and things between him and the other son start to go wrong, you'll get the blame. He's a father to your child and the other child. He needs to be allowed to be a good father, or later in life it will really come to bite you.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 Well i guess that this is fair enough, as both of his children deserve to have there father around them, but if you really dont want to move to this other state then you have to tell him, but make sure you are not wanting to move for the right reasons, and its not that because you dont want him to be close to his other son, because that is wrong.
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