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writes:Hi. I want to have kids, I want it so bad, but my boyfriend (lived together for 1 year, dated for 2) doesn't seem completely sure. He seems very keen on having kids but also says its not "good timing". I've just finished studying and I don't have a job. And he thinks it would be troublesome for me to get a job if I was a mum. He has a job and makes a lot of money. So money isn't a problem otherwise. He says it's up to me to make the decision. That he will do whatever I want. But I know he wants to wait little. What should I do?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 May 2010):
Listen to him and wait. I'm sure you can't wait to be a mum, but that's the best thing to do. You both need to be in a good position before you can have kids. You don't want to have a child only to realize you can't afford it. No harm in waiting just a few more years.
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reader, bitterblue  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 It would probably be wiser to wait. And how will you support yourself and the child if you break up? Preferably find a job firstly and do a proper planning. Both of you should be pretty certain, and make the decision together. I don't agree with this being up to you. And why hurry, after all. Wait until you are both on the same page so he can't feel as though this was a rather forced decision and resent you later on.
Best of luck.
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reader, Felix Francis  +, writes (27 May 2010):
Dear
Try to understand his situation and accept his request now, but you put a time frame so he will also be happy, during thouse days try to change his mind by bringing the joy of the baby's sound in his heard, then rest is assured good times in the bed.
felix
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