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writes:Me and my boyfriend had sex only 5 weeks after I gave birth. I feelreally uncomfortable because I think I might be loose or something. The reason I say that is because he said afterwards I am tighter now than I was before. I barely tore at all. But I can't tell if I am tight or not when we have sex. It till hurts a lot when we have sex. So, all I can think about is the pain when we do it. So, i he just saying that to make me feel good about myself? Reply to this Question
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (11 March 2009):
 If you are curious medically, you can go back to the hospital where you had your delivery, and ask to speak to the doctors who handled you.
As UnclePhil said, some women had more stiches because they tore, and some doctors stiched more than the tear required.
In the medical realm, it is actually possible to "tighten" the labia opening/width via a reconstructive surgery, if and when necessary.
But for you, if you are young and healthy, it could also your natural body "re-forming" itself back to what itself. Maybe your body "set the clock back" for the muscles in that area a bit too far back .. like when you were still a teenager .... Lucky you! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): If you tore a little and had a few stitches to repair the damage the chances are that there's very little difference between how tight you are now and how tight you were before birth.
It seems to me that you ladies are as paranoid about how tight your pussies are as men are about the size of their wedding tackle. Tight, loose, big, small - it doesn't make any difference to anything!
I well remember the first time I had sex after my first child was born. She told me she couldn't feel a thing and to be honest, neither could I, much. It was akin to waving an arm in a warm room, but after some pelvic floor muscle exercises it soon got back to how it was.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (11 March 2009):
 No, he means it. Satindesire is right, guys are up front and you can take what they say at face value.
If sex hurts though, stop and wait a while. I believe you're supposed to wait around 6 weeks. But I haven't had kids, this is just what I have heard.
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