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writes:My boyfriend says I’m lazy and he gets upset with me because when I get home from work, all I want to do is just relax. I usually get home from work around 6 p.m. Once I get home, I have to empty the dishwasher, re-load the dishwasher, wash a load of laundry, fold laundry, feed the pets, make dinner and then clean up after dinner. After all this I’m exhausted. The last thing I want to do is go out, especially during the week. How can he see this as me being lazy? How can I get him to see that staying home during the week does not make me lazy? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): Well it sounds like you have a communication problem with your boyfriend. Ask him to help you with the chores and then go out and have fun. If you are really tired just go out once a fortnight during the week. At least he wants to take you out! Most of my ex-boyfriends were couch potatoes and never took me anywhere! Cheers
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): Yeah i agree with the previous poster to an extent. I think you are stuck in a rut. How about you ust do the laundry every few days. There is no need to do it every single day. Also maybe cook up a huge meal a couple of times a week and have leftovers then next night and give yourself a break from cooking. Folding t-shirts and making meals although undoubtedly important responsibilities seem to me to be a tool you are using to avoid having to get out of your comfort zone. Surprise him and plan a night out this week.....go on, you know you wnat to lol.
xx take care
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (14 October 2008):
 Its too expensive to be going out in the week as well as weekends!
If you're at work all week, whats the big deal about waiting til the weekend to go out?
I wouldn't be going out all week. It makes the weekend better to look forward to.
I certainly dont think you're boring. I think he maybe needs to grow up a bit. My kids would have something to say about it too if I was out all week lol
But i'm guessing you dont have any yet. Just as well! I expect you would be doing most of it yourself by the sounds of it.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): Why don't you make a deal? Ask him to help, and then you won't be so tired and will want to go out! I'd be tired too if I had to do everything myself. Share the workload. That's only fair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): stop moaning and have a night off from washing it wont hurt,dont get into routine it destroys relationships
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