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writes:I love my husband very much but I have been very annoyed lately. His company closed in July '08 and ever since then he has been trying to get a construction company off the ground. I NEED stability and not knowing if he will have work next week much less $$ makes me sick. He was just offered a position with guaranteed good $. Today was his first day and he already "hates" it. Grant it it doesn't sound great but it's consistent good $ and we have 4 children ages 2-16. We need consistancy. I have a full time job and take care of these kids. I feel like he already had his mind made up to HATE this job so he could go back to the business he wants to start. Am I being selfish?? Reply to this Question
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reader, ms.sherri +, writes (14 October 2008):
 Hi. Your vows were 4 better or worse. U r in more control of ur relationship than u think. U have the power to make it work or failure. If its 2 make it work try seeing things from a mans point of view. Regardless of what we think men take in a lot of pain hurt and confusion and made appear 2 be fine but really not. So talking in a sweet way. Doing things 2 ease the burden of both of u and getting a little creative with ur love will only improve things. Its easy 2 leave but great if u fight 4 what is yours. Stay strong. Patence knowing nothing stays the same. Huggs. Toi
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reader, PM  +, writes (14 October 2008):
 Well, you are being practical and thinking about your children and trying to be a good mother. However, have you paused to think about whether or not you're being a good wife?
Would a good wife put the needs of her family above the needs of her husband? Your husband hates his job and is more passionate about owning and running his own company but you are more concerned about the stability of the family. Putting the needs of your family over that of your husband may be good for the physical well-fare of your children, but what will happen to them when your husband starts talking about the fact that he feels as though you are against the way he wants to live? What will happen when he realizes that you are not supporting him but are discouraging him? What will happen if he decides that if he's not getting support from his wife and children that he might as well be on his own?
Personally, I would figure out a way in which he could get his company off the ground while still maintaining some stability for a period of time. Perhaps, save up money for a few months so that you know you will be financially okay for at least a few months while he is trying to get established.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): Dear
Business is always shows you ups & downs, so this a part of business life. Now it is very difficult for a business man to do job. If you feel that, ur husband was running gud business from past long years and its just a matter of time phrase that you are suffering from, than I thing you should start you business with the full excitment n goals, and you should give confidence to your husband because wife is the betterhalf so I think you should not let his half the confidence down.
Be positive god will always help those who help them self.
All the Best
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