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writes:I've been dating a guy who's recently divorced. He still lives with his ex and has no plans for her to move out because he cannot afford the mortgage on his own. I'm not an option at the moment for various reasons and he refuses to sell the house at no profit. They have a super friendly relationship yet stay in separate rooms. Should I be worried about this bizarre relationship? She knows about me and stalled the divorce. Now that it's official I thought they would both move on with their lives but it seems like they are still connected. He says he loves me but that it's economics why they are together. Should I walk away? I really love him but this is killing me.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 November 2010):
If there was ever a time to dump someone, this is it. I understand that he doesn't want to sell, but both of them appear to be stalling, and this could literally take years to sort out, by which time you will have gone mad from waiting around. I think move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): Simple, move him out of your life.
She's stalled the divorce, they're still on happy terms, they still live together. It's not over between them, simple as that.
Move on to fully single guys, or at least ones that show no signs at all of getting back with their ex!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Were you dating him before he was divorced? Why doesn't he have her move out and you move in? Also if he can't afford the mortgage, the proper solution would be to sell the home and move into something he can afford.
I feel that he's trying to blame it on economics of why they still live together..he's got options but he's not taking advantage of them. There's a possibility of them getting back together since they're co-existing in the same household. Also how are you going to go over there and spend time with him? I would think it would extremely awkward. In addition, I would be questioning this super friendly relationship, since they're recently divorced. Depending on the reason of the divorce, it's fishy how they're the best of friends when they just ended their marriage.
There's no significant reason keeping her there, he wants her there..I would opt out of this relationship. It's about you and him. Not about you, him, and his ex-wife. He needs to clean house before he engages in a proper relationship.
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