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writes:Hello, I know many people posted about this, But I feel like I really need some help. This is a tough situation, and I dont know what to do.I had a 3 years relation ship with my ex, we lived together for 2 years. I know his family, I actually love them. they were always nice to me, They loved me as much as I love them. I started dating my ex when I was 19, I was so sick of my mom, so I wanted to get out my house!. I did love him, but we are so diferent, He is 10 years alder than me. He likes to stay @ home drinking, while I love going out. When I started living with him, I knew he wasnt for me. But I felt it was too late, I felt like I had to keep going, for my family, for his family, for him. So i did. At the beggining of this year I got sick of him, and I think he felt the same. On May I mentioned to him that I was gonna move back to my mom house after my vacations, I basically broke up the relationship. He said he thought we were going ok, He said he bought an engagement ring, and he was gonna propose. We tried to break up "nicely", and we did. I know his brother almost 3 years, at the begining I thought he was an a**hole, but we start talking, and knowing each other, we clicked. everybody in the family noticed it, but nobody said anything. the true is that even when I knew my relationship with my ex didnt have any future, I wasnt able to break up, 'til I started going out with his bro and I felt in love. I know I did wrong, but i have some much fun and so many feeling with the bro. He is younger than my ex, He is really good looking, and I feel happy with him. When the family knew about us was horrible.. My ex hasnt talked to him again. they havent even seen each other. I see my ex once a week because of the school. sometimes he seems sad, he says hi to me, sometimes we talk about school. I saw some pics of him with another girl, but I know he is not having any relationship.They have the same father, but different mom. I talked to his mom and she is cool with the idea, actually everybody likes the idea, but the father. He doesnt talk about that, but He knows we still see each other. I respect his father as i respect mine, and I feel like shit. I feel I'm doing wrong. and I'm afraid the bro and me are never going to be really happy. I love him, but I dont wanna hurt anymore. I feel so happy with him, 'til I remember his dad and my dad (who doesnt know anything yet). I dont know if I should get out of his life, Or keep going with the relationship. He does love me, and I know he's gonna get hurtd if I leave him. But I think family comes first, and he might find somebody else. I need some help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): i think that ur doing the right thing. ur relationship was over long before you actually ended it. i can't say that seeing his brother intimately was the best thing to do until it officially was over.so only 2 people don't like the idea? ur ex and his father. ok, it's impossible to please everyone all the time. the rest of the family is happy the two of you are together? you and he are happy together? they don't walk in ur shoes. u do. i would sit down and have a talk with ur new love. after all, it's his family that he's going to have to deal with if the two of you do not work out (hopefully u will).the cats out of the bag, so it's not like u can give it a test run to see if ur going to get along..stranger things have happened!! and u sound really happy, u sound like u've really thought this through. people have done things like this for spite. ur just in love. the both of you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): You are keeping it all in the family , 2 brothers down and one father to go? No girl, plse stop destroying this family. You destroyed your ex b sleeping with his brother. Have some respect for yourself. You have been most unkind and inconsiderate to your ex. How the hell do u face him.
You should never trade brothers. It messes everything. It only brings heartache and paina and most of all I want to know How do u even look at yourself in the mirror. Your poor ex, I feel very sorry for him.
LoveGirl
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reader, soon567 +, writes (28 November 2010):
I had to read it again because it no freaking away I would be loving a woman my brother been getting off to for the last couple of years. The image alone would do me in let long the thought of whom the heck she been with besides my brother.
For chris sake do not date the father if this doesn't works either. What a family reunion this case would be, one year with the eldest brother the next with the youngest. The image alone and I would walk on this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): You lived with the man for 2 years, which basically means you were living as man and wife. And now you're going off with his brother? You're basically rednecking it!
Every man I know wouldn't touch a woman who's dated a friend, never mind one who's been through the family!
You're gonna get a name for yourself! I'd fully move on if I was you!
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