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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I was hoping someone could help me with this problem. I am in a 3 year relationship with my boyfriend. We are ending college and recently he has been pressuring me to drink heavily. It has nothing to do with sex or anything like that its just every time he drink, he drinks 9 or more alcoholic drinks and I usually drink 3-4. Last night I told him his level of drunk-ness made me feel uncomfortable and he went off. He said I was totally wrong, crazy, and that nothing he did was wrong. He also said that I do not get drunk enough and it was impossible for him to be happy unless I got drunk (not buzzed) more. I dont like getting "drunk" but I enjoy drinking. I come from an alcoholic family (as does he) and I simply do not enjoy getting drunk because I get hangovers and its exhausting. Anyway, he said that he could not ever be truly happy with someone who did not get fully drunk at least once a week, if not more. I'm not really sure what to say or do at this time, i want to know if his demands are completely unreasonable (I believe they are) or if this is "normal" somehow.
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reader, raiders +, writes (29 April 2010):
 He obviously has a drinking problem and and enjoys getting drunk and I don't know if you have notice but most drinkers hang around other drinkers, drug users hang over other junkies. I think they feel out of place being around someone sober because they feel that being sober is not fun. I feel this is the drugs and the alcohol speaking. When we are sober we can see how dumb and naive they can become. We can see how they loose respect for people and sometimes be rude or mean. We see them pass out and be out of control, and than when there soberness kicks in we remind them of how they made a fool out of themselves. I feel he can drag you down with him if given the time. Be careful and remember you if want to be successful hang out with successful people, you want to be smart hang out with smart people, and I feel you get my drift be care.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 April 2010):
I'm not sure you should be with this guy at all. This isn't normal. I suspect he has an alcohol problem and feels better when you're drunk too. I think you need to get away from him to be honest. Don't let someone treat you like this or blackmail you either. If he doesn't like you as you are when you're sober, then what's the point.
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