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writes:Hi guys,I mentioned 4 months ago that my boyfriend said he was laeving the country for good and he had to look afdter his parents and tahthe couldnt take me with him becaus ethat place isnt for me, conditions are not suitable to live being a thirdworld country. and I wont fit in with his family because i dont cover up like other women inh is family and im too modern.I told him i can do all that and he came back with me and promises to stay with me and siad he will just go and live with his parents for 3 months and then will eb back here. now he is back with his parents and told me that he wants to end this because he never had feelings for me and he was forced by my emtions to stay. but It was 5 months after we were going out he told me that he had to leave and he is leaving me bcz he cares abt me. he said all about he loves me and misses me and everythng was good. he was bak with me after last tiem and we were having such good time now he turns round and says he never had feelings and i should forget him. I cried and begged for a week and he said he doent wnt it anymore. then i stopped calling him and he started calling me and talked normal so is aid to him, thr is no point keeping in touch and he said I dont y but I want to keep in touch. so i said it hurts more like this just let go of it etirely. it was so painful to say but I said and he siad ok he will try not to contact me.I am not sure if i did teh right thing. Im so shattered i thought he wa steh right guy and w just clicked we loved spenind time together and he was always asking to spend time togther, had long conversations over the phone. It always felt liek he had true feelings for me. I dont know what to do he cant stop thinkin about him.plz help Reply to this Question
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reader, raiders  +, writes (17 May 2010):
 I'm not sure what you want to hear, but you been told by all of us that he is not good and he is no good for you and if you keep on attaching yourself to him there is not much anyone can do. You will follow no one advise and I guess at the end it is your life I just hope it all works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi friends,last week i ws really ill. was very stresseed. he said he will come back and we will tlk abut it. he came 3 days ago and he doesnt want to talk about it at all. he keep sayin i cant adjust with him, he is nt the right guy for and i will suffer with his family. if he loves me y is he thinkin too mucn abut future.whn i say i can manage. it hurts so much. i cnt sleep i cant eat an study its been over a month.what shall i do?
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (30 April 2010):
 In regards to the follow up: TWO words, sweetheart: STRING ALONG, this guy's a GAME PLAYER. Forget about him. Anything else is just plain absurd.
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reader, raiders +, writes (30 April 2010):
I'm not sure why you are re-thinking your new single status, You know you are better off without him. It seems this is his routine he sweet talks you, he leads you on, and than he bails on you. Me personally I wouldn't give him the time of day, but this is about you not me and I really hope you make the right decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear friends,
thanks for your help, he came online yesterday and asked how i was doin and then himself said "such a silly question to ask" I just trie dto appear strong and said I am pefectly fine, coming to my normal routine. He said sorry u trusted me and I decieved you. I said I dont know I leave it to God to decide what u did wa right or wrong. he said I was reading over old chat conversations , they were really nice. i asked why and he said he doesnt know why. then i said I will go for jogging now and he went to sleep...
i feel so sad and devastated dont know hat he wants , is he thinking of coming back, taking his time, or jst contacts me anyway?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): Im sorry this happen to you. Something very similar happen to me recently. You did the right thing but asking him not to contact you. Listen to your instincts and be strong. Its hard letting go but it can be done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): thanks alot guys thts very helpful
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reader, Sanita  +, writes (29 April 2010):
I know what u r going through, i went through similar, let him go, he is playing you, he has no interest in being with you thats why he doesn't call often or come to visit you whenever he feels like. When aloves loves a woman he will do anything to let her know by showing her how which he adores her. I know that it hurts right now but you will get over him, time heals all wounds. So i am advicing you to forgot about him and find someone that will love you for you. And don't stress yourself out over him because he doesn't deserve you.
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reader, raiders +, writes (29 April 2010):
I'm glad you took the courage to tell him not to contact you again. That was the right thing to do and you will see little by little your interest in him will diminish. Remember what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger, and you will not die from love you will survive and will learn not to tolerate bull sh*t from creeps and players. Good luck in your future and I give you a standing ovation for putting a stop to his nonsense.
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reader, princessofGod43 +, writes (29 April 2010):
 sweetheart, i know believe me that it is hard to let go...but it seems even though he may have feelings or had feelings that he is manipulative somehow and that you ...being the good natured person you are...takes him back...you need to wash your face and get dressed take yourself somewhere nice ...maybe dinner and a drink and believe and know that it is not you but him and that he missed out on a good thing not you...and believe me if he loved you the way he needs to love you or should love i should say he would have no problem coming to you finally...but that is not what he is doing he is leading you on...for what i don't know...maybe the light inside of you...the way you make him feel but you have to look at yourself as your own little child and say is this good for me? If not that is your answer. I know you love him...but he is not doing the requirement of that love!
God bless you in your future search for love...take the lessons learned here and grow!
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (29 April 2010):
Seems pretty straight forward to me: This guy is just playing with you and your emotions. Sounds like you're ok for a brief fling or good time and then when he's back in the real world he wants nothing to do with you. The "give aways" are: he'll *try* not to contact you? Either he does or doesn't. Period. There is no *try* as if he's powerless to stop himself? If you're not good enough for him ALL THE TIME, then you're not good enough for him some of the time. Tell this guy to take a hike and find someone who covers up properly and all that jazz. This guy is a classic predator getting his kicks playing with you. Don't waste yourself or your time on this guy. Just let go and if he calls hang up without a word. The pain of letting go completely will be far less than the pain you will surely suffer if you allow him to keep stringing you along. Good riddance to this guy. Don't give him any further part of you, your mind or your heart, save that for someone worth it. This guy is roadkill, run, don't walk away from this guy. Run fast.
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