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*shco
writes:My problem is that me and my boyfriend of 3 years we have nothing to talk about any more. I know everything about him cause he is an open book he'll tell me everything even if i never asked him to tell me. He knows me pretty well except for a few things here and there just cause i'm not an open book like he is and its hard to let people in expecally him.My question is has anyone that has been in a long term relationship has this ever happen to you and if so what did you do to over come this?Please note do not tell me to start small talk because I hate it when i do that to people I care about or have known for a long time. If me and my boyfriend have been together for a short time then small talk wouldn't borther me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Ashco +, writes (25 April 2012):
Ashco is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice people, I just have to say that planing trips and going out in public places is not an option cause he has social anxiety disorder, the only way it could happen is if he decides to do it, and i won't push him outside his comfort zone.
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reader, Cole Turner  +, writes (25 April 2012):
 Spice up your relationship!
get out and get excited.
Maybe a holiday is on the cards? ... or a romantic day out? If you find yourself becoming complacent you need to get things spiced up!! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2012): I know a lot about my family and close friends so we do end up talking a lot about trivial things, like series, books, each other's lives, other people's lives, the weather,the news, It's just not possible to have meaningful talks 24/7 sometime you'll run out of subjects or you'll just become very boring because even very smart people like chit-chat a bit.
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reader, SWbytrade +, writes (25 April 2012):
Sounds like you're just stuck in knowing the past.
Maybe it's time to explore new things with him beyond your scope of comfort. Go on trips, try new things with him. Maybe you will discover more about him if you both become more adventurous.
These things happen. People get comfortable and take the relationship for granted.
Try this first, before doing anything else.
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