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writes:Does anyone have any insight or advice about this: my boyfriend of 16 months continuously sends friend requests to models, adult film stars, etc. He doesn't know these women personally. I am a little concerned, and wonder if I should be worried about our relationship. I have not said anything to him about it. By the way, we have been fighting over stupid things lately, every couple weeks or so. What does everyone think? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 February 2010):
 Seems like he is looking for greener grass, as in, I think he is thinking.. WHAT IF... one of these porn stars replied.. Maybe it's a fantasy, but I still find it disrespectful to you.
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reader, veronika  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 Friend requests over myspace or facebook etc?
Personally, I wouldn't worry *too* much. If they're famous models or adult stars, they likely get a lot of requests daily from fans. I used to send friend requests to bands or actors I liked when I was on myspace. This is probably a similar thing.
However, are if it does make you excessively uneasy, ask him about it, but not in a harsh way. Just ask him why he sends friend requests to these women, and ask if he's just doing it because he's a fan, or doing it because he wants to "meet up" or send messages to them. If he's doing it just for the hell of it, then it shouldn't be anything to worry about. But if he's doing it because he wants to meet them and flirt, then that could be an issue.
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 I wouldnt worry too much about his requests to these women. Adding the attractive next door neighbour would be more of a worry! His interest in adding models and film stars sounds more of a fantasy thing than a real problem. The ones that do accept him probably have 1000`s of people on their lists and wont be spending any time on him anyway. I have a friend whos added thousands and when i go online hes there waiting for a chat. Because despite all of his "friends" there, im about the only one that actually has a real chat with him. I think its a loneliness thing with some of them. A "look at me, ive got lots of friends" deal. Dont worry about it. The problems you have with arguing over stupid things should be more of a concern x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 February 2010):
I would suggest to you that though this is more about fantasy, it's pretty clear that he's not nearly into you enough. I would talk to him about it and say that you need to know where this relationship is going.
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