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writes:Dear Cupid, After four years, I booked a flight to visit my ex-boyfriend in Florida. The trip itself felt more like a dream because I didn't think I'd ever see him again. I had moved on, dated other guys and matured as a person whereas he did the same. Though, the on-again, off-again, and on-again 7-year contact between us had drew us closer where there was no denying that we still had feelings for each other. Though, I didn't know how strong our connection would be until I chose to visit him last week to test the nature of our relationship.In the days that followed, we rarely spoke much about the aftermath of our relationship as we didn't want to interfere with the fun we were having in Florida: he invited me to his friend's wedding, a carnival, and Sunday church service where I got to meet his family and friends. Even though I was his friend during the time I was there, apart of me felt like we were in a relationship. We laughed, confided in each other, talked about our current lives, the future, and even experienced conflict at times. His flaws, my flaws, the conflict between us sometimes took center stage where I wondered if this was even right. But its common for two people to have disagreements. He told me that even though I was the perfect woman for him, he had problems with me not having a closer relationship with God, and I had issues with his incessant stubbornness. Though, despite all of those things we are still attracted to each other. It's really difficult because I feel the only way we could be together is if I moved to Florida to make this work; he previously left his hometown to be with me and now, its my turn. Neither of us won't stand for a long distance relationship so, what should I do? Is it even worth it for me to move for a relationship? I am just now starting out in my career. I would love some advice from you guys! Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2013): I think it's worth it if you are 100% sure he is the one and he feels the same and you are both on the same page and want the same things.
I moved cross country to be with someone I loved. And we broke up. I don't regret it only because the city I live in is one I really wanted to be in with or without him. And I didn't have some great career where I was living before so I wanted a change.
Is Florida a place you can see yourself living with or without him?
Are you leaving behind a great career and a great life and great friends?
Are you sure he can provide the things you want (eg, marriage), The lifestyle you are used to?
These are all things to think about and make sure of before moving to be close to a guy.
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