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writes:i have a sex issue. my boyfriend is the type of guy that can last forever in bed. YET, he never comes. he can last two hours and not come. he says that he doesn't care because all he wants to do is pleasure me. i do all these things so that i can make him come, but he just stops me and starts pleasuring me. then after two hours, he is tired and we stop but he never came. he says he "thinks about not coming" so that he can last longer and please me. i told him not to think about it and he still does. he has that mental block... i just want him to come cuz it makes me feel bad! please help!another thing: he is not a night person, i am. he is a morning person, i am not. when we have sex at night, we go for 5 mins and then he stops and falls asleep. we cant do it during the day cuz we have school/work. how do i have him stay awake?
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reader, InsideWound  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 To your knowledge, does he watch pornography? I ask this because my ex (who I was with for 2 years) could almost never climax with me. I know he was attracted to me because he pursued me for 2 years prior to that and had a crush on me all through high school. I knew attraction wasn't a problem. However, I found out later on in our relationship that he was addicted to porn. I don't mean, he watched it occasionally....he was addicted. I came across 10 or more cd's with hundreds or website links on each cd. He also had cd's with pictures and videos. He confessed that he masturbated sometimes 3 times a day. Where...I figured out the problem.
I'm not saying that this is your boyfriend, but it might be something to consider. Don't ask him, do a little research yourself because if he is, he will most likely lie about it.
Another thing to consider is he might be homosexuality denial or he could have a real medication condition that prevents him from reaching orgasm.
Try not to take this personally until you know the underlying problem. He sounds like a sweet guy. I hope you find the answer you're looking for. In the meantime bring the focus back on yourself and try to be happy no matter what.
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 Some men do have mental blocks about it. Sometimes even I shoot a blank (but that might for other reasons). Try talking about it gently and telling him how happy it would make you to see him finish.
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 Hi,
There could be many reasons why your boyfriend doesn't climax, He could have a sexual dyfunction, or it causes him too much anxiety to climax. He could also be gay and in denial. He might not like you in a sexual way.
He could be also telling the truth (which I personaly think is unlikely). Whatever the reason try talking with him about it gently. Sorry about being so upfront with my opinion, I hope it helps.
Take care !!
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