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writes: A 40+ female with a 50+ male bf, moved in together about 3 months ago. Both formerly dating younger persons. His ex-gf is still actively in the pic, now mostly emails, of which he did not admit to me. Unfortunately, these past few weeks, he's edgy-aggitated. This seems to happen every once in a while. We live in a small space, work opposite hours, And the little amount of time we do spend together, along with his irritability, I feel as if I am invading his space and computer time, in lieu of us actually spending time together. He spends quite a bit of time on the computer. I was very sexually active previously, so was he, as he states. However, now I'm lucky if we have any type of intimate encounter once every 4-5 months, including sleeping together. I actually no longer feel very sexy or vibrant anymore, nor do I feel as a "partner". He has been experiencing prostate difficulty signs. He insists our relationship is fine, he does not want me to move out, and that he just needs "his space", and is tired. He feels, holding my hand (which is nice), a quick kiss, and a hug is enuf to suffice. This has been pretty much for the past 6-months of our relationship. Unfortunately, the only time I see him happy is when he is on the computer or working (he loves his job). ARRRGGGG !!Frustrated Angel
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reader, Violet_Angel +, writes (15 May 2006):
Hang in there and listen to your instincts, not your head. Sounds like the two of you have some things to discuss. You open to talking honestly to eachother?
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reader, Violet_Angel +, writes (15 May 2006):
Wow..you ARE frustrated...you now are past the honeymoon stage. At this point, you have a couple options; 1)make a choice to move out, 2)get a hobby (he will miss you) 3)have a sit-down and talk/work this out. It sounds as if he really does want you there and this is only a transitional period of adjustment. Be patient, especially with the sex, as this may be just as frustrating for him. Talk to him, even if you must invade his private computer time. With regards to the ex-gf, it's not jealousy, it's a territorial thing, men get the same way. No worries. Again, talk to him, communication & honesty are the key!!! Just watch!
Good Luck and Keep In Touch, let me know!
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