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writes:I'm a 20 yrs old, and have been with my boyfriend for only 2 months... hes a lovely boy, but ive noticed he only really seems to find big breasted women attractive.. he mentions other womens breasts a lot, and it annoys me because im quite small up there(id guess a 32B, although not 100% on that!)he also seems quite reluctent to touch them, if i have them out, they tend to get overlooked. I know his ex girlfriend as well, who, annoyingly, is a size 6 with DD boobs! some women are just lucky i guess. I'm feeling quite insecure at the moment. I've mentioned it once before, but he just tells me im beautiful, as if that'll solve everything. Any advice would be welcome.
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (25 January 2010):
Number one. 32b is not all that small. I bet they are very very nice. As far your guy? Nxt time he says something tell him he can go be with her then. Then give him the cold shoulder. He will catch on. The bs lines "your beautiful". Are fake if he dsnt make you feel as tho he is sincere. Or you can go ahead and turn ur insecurity around on him. Its rude of him to comment on other girls in front of you. Or just go ahead and dump him. When he asks why say u found sum1 better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): If your bf had a small penis and you had last dated a guy with a large one....im sure that fact would make your bf feel a little insecure. If you ALSO banged on about large penises and made it obvious you found them more attractive, i expect your bf would be finding it difficult to get an erection with you by now and be looking around for a nicer girl!
In other words, your bf is being immature and insensitive.
My advice is to go to a good lingerie shop and get yourself properly measured for bras. Tell them you want to accentuate what you have. Buy a few posh up bras and next time you are out with him wear something clingy, low cut and show off your figure. Walk ahead of him, smile at guys and look confident and happy. You will leave smiling men in your wake, which the bf will have to wade through. This will wake him up to the fact that you are gorgeous and his preference for large boobs isnt important to you because youre hot with what youve got!
I was your size at 20. But ive had children and im alot older now and im a 38 DD. I much prefered having a small neat bust it was far nicer x
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (25 January 2010):
I doubt his ex is enhanced; my teenage daughter is a size 8 and has to squeeze into a DD so its possible. But that's besides the point. Your dude is insensitive and if he carries on, the best thing is to find a way to make him insecure too using reverse psychology. For example, tell him that your friend has a boyfriend with a really huge thick dic... Say it with admiration like he does the boobs. Or if he is uncircumsized then admire circumsized dics or vice versa. This worked well for me years ago. Now instead of you asking if your boobs are ok, it will be him wondering if you are satisfied with his tools.
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reader, Boombadaboom  +, writes (25 January 2010):
 You're beautiful the way you are. Simple as that. Your body has nothing wrong. He just seems to fall for a simple physical trait. Nothing you can do about it. I'd definitely disadvise trying to have bigger breasts because it simple isn't the way. He started loving you for a different reason and he'll keep loving you for that reason or not. It won't change because you have smaller breasts or not. Love your breasts! If he doesn't then he'll love something else about you. Either way it's no loss for you at all. Ok it bugs you that he seems to notice other women with them but hey that's something he'll need to get over, right? On the bright side, he's not gay at all :D and on the brighter side, he can love you despite your smaller breasts. The fact that you said "lovely boy" makes me believe he is younger? well he can always grow out of that, huh? I remember that I used to love other physical features too on women than I do now. I used to think big breasts were nicer too but I realised I love smaller breasts too, they're great to be honest! It's something to grow out of I guess, if he's going to the point of obsessed than it's a little weird on his part I must say :D So don't worry! Be all the woman you can be and you won't need to seduce him with breasts at all, he'll get aroused solely for who you ARE already! :D
good luck, girl!
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (25 January 2010):
 His ex girlfriend sounds a bit enhanced. When I'm at my ideal weight I'm about a B. You're not small.
It's really rude of him to talk about other women, especially other women's breasts, in your presence. Tell him that it makes you really uncomfortable for him to do that. I don't understand why he does it if he realizes it bothers you.
You say you've mentioned it once before.
Verbatim, what exactly did you say? I mean no offense but perhaps your boyfriend is a bit thick when it comes to taking a hint. You should tell him directly, "It really makes me uncomfortable when you talk about other girls' breasts around me."
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