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anonymous
writes: Dear cupidMy bf of 2 years likes spending time with his friends rather than with me. He is always coming up with thing or another not to spend much time with me.I know for sure that he is not cheating, but he is always hanging out with his friends. I have given him enough space, i am not clingy type. I even asked him is there anything he wants to discuss. We are not fighting and i am not sure whether im over reacting.Please help me, what should i do. Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, traeumerin242 +, writes (24 April 2012):
Some guys are more into their guy friends than into their girlfriends. Sometimes, it's a matter of how long they have known their buddies versus how long they have known you. Other times, people are more comfortable with one gender or the other.If he has always been like this, then I don't think it's much of an issue since there is clearly something there between you two after 2 years. If this is more recent, that he seems to be backing down on how much time he is spending with you, it could be that he is not ready to commit to anything permanent, and your age would suggest that this is probably the time you're seriously thinking about getting married and starting a family. You may or may not be to the point of wanting to get married in a year's time, but my guess is you're at least considering whether you want a permanent relationship with him or with someone at all.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (23 April 2012):
Your not over reacting.
It sounds as if he isnt that interested in you, otherwise if he cared he would make more time to be with you.
Your both incompatible because he hasnt respected your feelings.
You deserve much better, do you really want to be with someone like that?
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