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writes:So I just started dating this older guy, he's 26 and I'm 18. Does anyone have any advice on how to keep an older guy interested?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (24 April 2012):
 Age really shouldnt matter in him being interested in you or not - and if he stops being interested in you, well he's not worth keeping anyway!
Men generally just want a girlfriend who is fun to be around, happy, kind and doesnt want a life full of drama. A lot of younger girls and teenagers seem to be addicted to the ups and downs in relationships, crying a lot, asking to go on 'breaks' etc. This cant happen when you are with an older guy, he will quickly see through it, he will realise how immature his girlfriend is and want to move on.
So if you get upset over something, you have to talk to him about it and work through the problem like an adult. Dont cry, sulk, stop talking to him for a few days etc. And never ask to go on a break, that is probably the most childish thing you can do.
Apart from that there is not a lot you can do to keep him interested, just be yourself and hopefully he will like you for who you are. If he loses interest, well that shows he is not really into you and that you are not supposed to be together.
Also - keep in mind that with his age he probably has a full time job, and maybe you are still at school/college/university or something like that? He will be pushing to move forward in his career at his age, so he will be very busy, often tired and wont always have loads of time for you. Dont be too demanding of his time, I'm sure he will make time for you when he can but work is important and he will have lots to do so you might not always be able to see him whenever you want.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Odds  +, writes (24 April 2012):
 He's not really that much older - my own parents are eight years apart. Still, the key is the same as with any guy - be loyal, be pleasant, and be humble. Don't be rude, don't be stupid, and don't be a doormat. Maybe you're already doing these things. Try to strike the balance, and when you fail to do so (happens to everyone now and then), correct yourself and try again. Further notes:
Loyal: easy don't cheat, and whenever another guy flirts with you, ignore him and go flirt with your man.
Pleasant: always assume he has good intentions, especially when he makes a mistake or says something wrong. Treat him accordingly. Be enjoyable to be around.
Humble: you are not the center of the universe, don't act like it. You're not a better person than he is, even when he makes a mistake.
Rude: don't make his life worse, don't take out your frustrations on him or anyone else.
Stupid: you don't have to know everything, you just have to show some intellectual curiosity and a willingness to learn, and to apply what you've learned. Be willing to admit what you don't know, rather than trying to make up something that sounds smart.
Doormat: for everything about being humble, pleasant, and polite, remember that you are owed the same respect you show to everyone around you. So long as you're being respectful, expect the same in return (and, in line with being humble and not being rude, remember to examine your own actions before condemning others').
Lastly, do your best to make him feel like an irresistible stud. Don't be afraid to show that you find him attractive, and that while you are a good girl most of the time, that he can (privately) bring out the inner bad girl.
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