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writes: my boyfriend of almost 2 yrs. will make jokes about my breasts. saying they are little and all, but then when I try to ignore it he will make another joke, then it bothers me and he will apologize and say he is just joking and that my breasts are not small. Well, I love my breasts and I know they are not big. Why does he continue to make jokes, knowing it bothers me?( in the past I did find out that he looked up a porno site on big butts and big breasts. I guess that is why it bothers me more than anything, because he didn't look up a site on average or small breasts.beautimus
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (30 March 2006):
 I don't mean to upset you saying this as this is what i think.But it seems to me that the things he says about your breast being small are what he really feels but he appologises then you won't relise what he is doing and ditch him.
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reader, BluntBabe +, writes (30 March 2006):
Dear Beautimus,You have already done the mature thing and told your boyfriend that his constant jokes about your breast size are bothering you. If you would like to keep being mature (which I suggest), ask him how he would feel if you picked out one of his flaws and repeatedly nagged him about it. (So this question has effect, prepare an example, such as, "how would you like it if I said, 'Baby, doesn't your back hurt from carrying around the weight of your droopy balls all day?'" ) He'll probably say, "Well, I wouldn't like that," and then STILL keep making jokes about your breasts.Well, this is where it gets FUN.Now, you get to pick that special flaw of his, I mean, the one that you know will dig right into that big old ego of his and make it bleed, and needle at it every time he makes fun of your boobs!i.e.,"MAN (as he sees you putting on your bra): Honey, don't forget the tissue...WOMAN: I CAN'T EVEN FEEL YOUR DICK WHEN WE HAVE SEX!"okay, that may be a bit excessive, but you get my drift. If he can dish it, he should be able to take it.As far as him browsing those sites... don't worry, I'm a small B and I've found "ginormous gajombas" on my google search history before. Our boyfriends may like that stuff, but they're with us for a reason.Good luck,Blunt
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (29 March 2006):
 The reason your boyfriend continues to make fun of your breast size is because he knows it bothers you, and he obviously gets off on making you mad.
Next time he starts tell him to go find a woman with bigger breasts if that'll make him happy and you'll go find someone that appreiciates the breast you have!
I don't think he's worried about your breast size, I think he just likes winding you up!
Good luck.x
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reader, PrunellaGringepith +, writes (29 March 2006):
 Ooooooh! Good one Shania! Let him know how it feels to be rated inadequate because of his body. Men can be so insensitive.
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reader, shania +, writes (28 March 2006):
 Your boyfriend is insensitive.Tell him he is a stupid little man with a small dick!.....that should do it.
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (28 March 2006):
 It bothers you because those 'jokes' are abusive and that is what your dealing with right now an abusive man. It might be just verbal and mental abuse now, but if you put up with the abuse, it will get worse.
(This has nothing to do with the porno he looks at, though that should also be a red flag.)
The best way to get the message across is to leave him completely, until he gets counselling to control the abusive tendencies and changes without you there.
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reader, Floppy +, writes (28 March 2006):
 Hello,Don't worry about what your boyfriend may think about your body, but if it bothers you too much then you should move on and find someone who won't treat you like this. It isn't fair to mock your body, he should be with you for who you are and shouldn't even be too bothered about what your body looks like, especially being hypocritical about it! Tell him he should love your body, and see if it makes a difference. Good luck!
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