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writes:Today I was on facebook when it came up on my newsfeed that my boyfriend "liked" a photo of some girl who went to his school. I clicked on it more than once so it was definitely him and I definitely wasnt seeing things.I texted him telling him that I'd seen it and I didn't like that he had done it. Straight away he removed his like and then texted me back saying he didnt know what I was talking about and accused me of not trusting him.I do trust him, I know guys are only human and I have absolutely no problem about him just looking, I was in no way accusing him of cheating on me or anything of the sort but am I right in believing that it is overstepping the line liking another girls photos when you are in a relationship?! It just made me feel like crap! I lost my virginity to this guy a few weeks ago, I wouldnt have done it if I didn't trust him (we waited a while and he wasnt a virgin) so now it really is kind of hurting that he doesnt believe I trust him. It was him who was in the wrong in the first place so why is he turning this around to make me feel bad? Am I right in being annoyed?He is 22 and I am 20
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2012): I told my mom she looked very nice in the outfit she wore to easter vigil last week, therefore I want to have sex with her.
^ This is the sort of logic you're using. See how much sense it makes?
I have news for you: You boyfriend likes women. Women of all kinds. Not just you. He happens to prefer you to other women, but that does not mean he has lost interest in others.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 April 2012):
 I don't think you are right. And I am afraid that if according to your exacting standards liking a picture is inacceptable within a relationship,... you will have quite some trouble maintaining this relationship and the future ones to.
If you keep getting annoyed about such trifles, they'll get annoyed about you being annoyed.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (13 April 2012):
 I think you are a wee bit overreacting. He pressed like on a photo. That seems like totally normal behavior to me. Unless she was posing seductively in her underwear/bathing suit, I don't see the problem. My bf and his female friends comment on and like each others photos frequently. It doesn't mean something is going on or that he wants it to.
No he definitely should not have lied, but my guess is he felt a bit surprised at your text and just made a stupid decision to avoid a fight over something he didn't understand as being a problem. I don't mean that's an excuse to lie, but maybe why he did it (as opposed to him just being a liar in general).
I think unless there's something else with this woman that is a problem, you should let it go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2012): I agree with Shadow Rose, I don't see any reason for you to be annoyed. He liked a picture of someone else, it doesn't mean he wants to be with someone else. I like pics of my friends on facebook, both male and female, and yes I have a boyfriend, he does the same. It doesn't mean anything more than I like the picture, I sure as heck wouldn't be with anyone in those pics. I think you are making an issue of nothing really, I think he was trying to avoid an arguement over something minor. Calm down and talk to him letting him know that you do trust him. Good Luck
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (13 April 2012):
 Actually, I see no reason to be annoyed. So he liked a picture that didn't have you in it, it's not like he's proclaiming his love to her.
I've liked pictures of my male friends plenty of times, and my boyfriend has liked pictures of his female friends.
I think the reason he lied to you about it is because he didn't want to get into an argument with you over something so trivial. Or perhaps he thought you were accusing him of cheating. Maybe you worded your text wrong, and he took it the wrong way!
He wasn't "just looking", he was simply liking a photo. He wasnt staring at a girl right in front of you.
I really think you should calm down a little about this, and tell him you weren't accusing him of cheating or anything, you just felt uncomfortable.
And just remember, liking a picture does not mean you want to make out with that person or anything. If it did, I'd want to make out with my dad, my grandma, my 3 year old nephiew, my friend's boyfriend, another friend and her boyfriend at the same time, etc etc. Get my point?
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