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writes:Hi I need a bit of help my boyfriend has recently to me he going on holiday to tenireffe with his friend. But the day he booked it he told me he was going to his sisters and it wasn't until five days later in an argument he told me where he was really going. I really don't understand why he lied but its not the 1st time he has but there normally little one. I no he won't cheat well I hope he doesn't but after he lied about the holiday I have a feeling that he mite and thats why he lied in the 1st place I really don't no what to do. And he is getting back on Xmas eve. Pease can any one help
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2013): You're back-peddling; because you don't have the courage to dump the jerk. Now you're making excuses for him.
Play it off. It will only get worse.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 December 2013):
He's lying. Really he is.
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reader, sallyanne +, writes (20 December 2013):
sallyanne is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe reason he lied was because I said I would finish him if he went on his first holiday with out me I no I shouldn't of but I was angry and he said he didn't want to hurt my feelings
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2013): I am afraid when your boyfriend lies about something as big as going on holiday, that's pretty serious. He didn't want you to know where he was going, and he didn't want you along.
You can't over-look how serious this is; by just trivializing it down to just another lie.
Whether or not he intends to cheat might still be a thing to consider. I know you don't want to face the worst case scenario; but you have to wonder why he would lie like that for any reason?
Since he feels lying is the way to do what he wants; you are going to have to get up the strength to face the truth. He has to go. This is a very bad sign in a relationship. He feels he has to lie to get away from you.
Well, it's just a matter of time. Either you'll make the first move to end it, or he will dump you.
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reader, M Proops +, writes (20 December 2013):
Do you know his friend is a male?Blokes don't go to Teneriffe to enjoy the scenery.You should dump him asap,he's not trustworthy.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 December 2013):
 This is not some simple little white lie. THIS is rather a BIG one.
Why on Earth would he not tell you that he is going on holiday with a friend?
This is not about cheating, or MAYBE he will cheat - this is about him not having 1 iota of respect for you.
Tell him to have a nice holiday and to forget your number. If he has anything of his at your place I would pack it up and drop it off at his sisters (if YOU know where she lives).
I think lying is a rotten thing to do to someone you supposedly love. Because it ERODES trust.
If you two hadn't had a fight you might not have known, which I find even worse, what a coward.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 December 2013):
I knew a man who would do this to his girlfriend. He did it several times, but the final straw for her was when they were supposed to be going to the cinema, and he phoned her from abroad to say he was on a holiday. She knew then, that he would never be there, and would always lie.
Your boyfriend is a liar. He's been getting away with little lies, because he knows you only see them as little. Now he's starting to get away with bigger lies, and he will continue to do so, because you're allowing it. If my girlfriend said to me that was going to her brother's and it turned out she had lied and was going abroad with a friend, I'd probably suspect that she was up to no good, or at the very least I'd know she had no respect.
I'd personally dump this boyfriend. He's not really committed,and he'll just continue to lie to you.
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