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writes: I,m having jealousy issues. Some I feel are legitimate and others from a possible low self esteem.A man approached my wife while she was out of town visiting a friend at a popular resort town. My wife told him she was married. He hung out with them though for a couple hours and seemed pleasant. He wan't pushy and seemed to respect the fact she was married. He was with his male and female friends, as was my wife. He was staying at a campground, which was of interest to one of my wifes group as they were interested in campig in that area.Anyway, they talked , danced etc. the evening at the night club ended, they took a picture and the guy wanted a copy sent to him. He left his email address to send the digital picture to.The next day, the person with my wifes group wanted to check out the campground. They went to see it, and by the way, did not see the guy from the previous night as he was leaving early.Upon arrivng home from the trip, they tried to send the guy the photo too. My wife told me all this. I got quite jealous. It really bothered me. Also, she did lie to me and it wasn't until later that I caught her. It was about going to the campground the next day. She had originally told me they didn't go at all. I found out and she told me she lied because I was crying and accusing her of ridiculous things from the moment she got home from the airport. It really botherd me that she thought this guy was nice and enjoyed talking to him. I feel she was flattered by his attention and that's why she let him hang around. By the was, my wife is a 9 out of 10 in the looks department so I'm accustomed to her getting attention. This time it really hurt me though as I know she enjoyed her time away and I wasn't part of it. It made me feel like the attention from another guy was something she enjoyed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2006): Get over it. Everything your wife did seems perfectly honourable, and even the little 'fib' at the end is so benign it shouldn't even count. At the end of the day, this is the cost associated with having a hot wife. Sure she talks to other men - it can't really be avoided in our modern world - but the point of fact remains that she sticks with you. YOU have the unique privilege of being her husband. You hint yourself at the likely root of the problem; it seems you are bringing your personal insecurities to bear on your lovely wife's harmless encounters. Perhaps you should focus inward a little more, or pursue interests that make you feel confident and capable. Once you feel more worthy in your own eyes, your jealousy will quickly evaporate.
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