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writes:hiya, ive been with my boyfriend for two years, and hes just joined the army, hes been in there for 5 months now, and i cant cope, im worried and scared and hurt that he will eventually be going to athganistan, im hurting so much you have no idea, im only 17 and we both just want to live with each otha now, we love each other so much, im finding this difficult im not eating properly and i just want someone to talk to.. soon he gets posted to cyprus and im going with him, i dont care what anyone says mi parents have finnaly got around the idea, so im going, but obviously its not as simple as that, i need somewhere to live, and i could rent off someone, i cant marry yet so i cant live in the army barracks, what am i supposed to how much money do i need to save so i no iv got some there, and is it easy to get a job out there? i have to go, cause i cant carry on like this, im hurtin and i dont no what to do.. plz someone write back and help. thankyou
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reader, stef2464 +, writes (14 February 2010):
my fiance is in afghanistan now, and im due to go out shortly after his returns home, its hard but if u love eachother then ull make it work.. in all 3 services u get 6 weeks leave.. only the army is block leave ( u get told when u cn take it and u all take it together).. hell b able to cum and see u on that leave and also u can take holidays out to see him whilst he gets settled in. and then u can both strt looking for places out there when you'v both got used to the change.Itll work out, i wouldnt rush into anythin though until you both know whats goin to be happening in cyprus and that.good luck
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reader, haleybaby  +, writes (14 February 2010):
hey im 19 and i was with this guy who joined the army about 5 months ago. we were together all during basic and about the first 2 months when he went to germany. we had our whole life planned out. i was going to move out there till may cause then he has to go to afganastan for a year. but we wanted kids before he went it was like a fairy tale. about a week ago we had a big fight but i told him i loved him and still wanted to be with him. after thateverything was fine but then he blocked me on facebook changed his relationship to single. ive wrote him so many messages saying i want him im sorry. ive called him but wont answer. his dad and mom says hes out in the woods and has been out there for a week but how would he have blocked me on facebook.?? i dont understand. he still hasnt called me. i havnt heard from him. anyways i think you should go with him.dont let him out of your site cause you never know if he might find someone else or not. so you should be by his side wherever he goes.
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reader, 4everhis +, writes (26 September 2009):
Hi, im 18 and i just started going out with this amazing guy who is 18 as well for a month and a half. We grown closer to each other and we starting to love each other (fast i know, but there something about him that i find irresistible) He sign up for the army for three years and i know once he leaves im about to be heartbroken. He is my first boyfriend and i care for him a lot. I just pray he would be fine [: he brought marriage to me and told me i can be the lucky lady in his life and that he wants me to have his child. It's too soon for all that but i am considering all this, i don't want to miss out on something that can turn into something beautiful lol and it makes me feel special that he see's me in his future because now, i can see him in mine. i was thinking of going with him if we get married before he's station. But i have family who would probability disagree with me. But then i relies this is my life and i have to make decisions on my own and do what i have to do to find my happiness not theirs. So do that you have to do girl [: and you should start saving up some money now and when you get there you have a few dollars while you look for a job
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reader, imogen1068 +, writes (20 August 2009):
 hello. i know how you feel, im 17 too and my boyfriend is joining the army and is going away soon and im going to find it hard to cope, i was not going to let him go but i realised i couldnt do that as this is always something he wanted to do and i wouldnt take that away from him. im afraid incase he gets killed. even worse im afraid that our relationship ends because hes away and it will be a long distance relationship, me and my boyfriend are going to write letters to eachother and phone calls to keep it going. the best thing for you to do is just accept that he wants to go i dont think you should go to cyprus with him as you have no money or no where to live out there. you should just stay where you are and eventhough your miss him its you he will be coming home to. but i really do know what your going through its horrible, if i had my way i wouldnt let my boyfriend go but i have to. good luck xx
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reader, GAZLAURA +, writes (24 April 2009):
Personelly i would not bother your only young and the thought of going abroad may sound good however once your there its a diffrent story, trust me i spent 14 years in the army and with 1 failed marriage behind me due to the restrictions of the army, beleive me its not a bed of roses in the forces and its not all one big party dont do it you will learn if you go. My advice is live your life here in the real world, be young have a laugh, i should know i have een all over the world in my career, sorry that is not want you want to hear.
Gaz
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reader, GL11 +, writes (8 September 2008):
GL11 is verified as being by the original poster of the question hello, i no in dis mesage i mite snd needy, but i love him so much and he feels the same two, and i really want to go 2 cyprus with him, not just for him but for me 2 just a fresh start, and they dont work that much when there out there, they get the evenings free. thankyou so much for helping and giving me tips and a website on how to sort all this out. thankyou xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 September 2008):
Woah sweetie you need to calm down.
Try this website:
www.forcesgirls.co.uk as a lot of the girls on there will be living in Cyprus already and will be able to advise.
Yes he will be off to Iraq / Afghanistan because they all go at some point. My hubbie has done Iraq three times now.
But the only way for you to cope and not go insane is to have your own life, your own job and your own friends and family around you.
If you to a foreign country and he goes away you will be MENTAL with worry and lonliness.
If you are going to be an army wife or girlfriend then you need to get used to him being away all the time and being scared for him. It's going to stay like this for the next 4 years at least.
Calm down and sort yourself out.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (6 September 2008):
 Look on the internet for that place and look around for real estate and the prices for them.
Later, make a lot more internet searches and look for jobs in the area. Thought I doubt you'll get one. You're still a minor, not even have a high school diploma. No skills at all whatsoever and you might have to learn the language to get there.
Sincerily dear, are you sure you want to do this? I agree with the anonymos poster, you sound TOO clingy. And you can't even do things yourself! You have to ask things as simple as that when you could have made long internet searches!
If I were you, I would have instead be worried that he be killed or seriously injured, but you that you can't "be without him"? and that he "hurt you" for going to the army? That all sounds selfish to me. He got in to the military because he wants help either the country or himself for his studies... he never did this to spite you! Don't be ridiculous.
So you will go to another, strange place to be with your boyfriend when you actually might not even see him (he will stay in the barracks and will not be allowed to go out much, probably once a month, so you know). You will be away from family and friends. You're still a kid and it will be hard for you to get a decent job to pay all bills because of your lack of skills.
Just putting that up, so you realize the reality of everything.
Well, but you're bound to do this. I think your parents are not really arquing with you anymore because they can't make you see what you're doing so they will let you fall on your own.
Well, so be it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): Why don't you stop clinging to him and stand on your own feet?
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