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My boyfriend isn't able to cum by vaginal sex. Why?

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Question - (4 November 2013) 9 Answers - (Newest, 6 November 2013)
A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My bf is very sexually aggressive and likes to dominate and humiliate me sexually and that's okay with me. The thing that bothers me though is that he only ejaculates if I stimulate him orally for over 30 minutes or if we do anal. Why that? He is unable to orgasm vaginally. Is there something wrong with me?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2013):

He is too used to his own hand, that's why.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (4 November 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony auntIt's NOT you... how much porn does he watch? how often does he masturbate?

sounds like he's a porn kind of guy and if he's used to pleasuring himself, then "normal" vanilla sex is not going to do it for him.

we had an issue such as this when we first started dating... we put a moratorium on self-pleasuring for about 2 weeks and when we saw each other.. it was incredible the next time.

Perhaps you could discuss with him that you both take a break from any porn or masturbation for a period of time between visits and see how it goes.

FWIW, nothing he says takes away from the issue that this is HIS problem and NOTHING you are doing wrong.

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (4 November 2013):

He probably just has fetishes. I bet if you were to find his porn history it'd be full of rough blow jobs and anal.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (4 November 2013):

person12345 agony auntNothing wrong with you. It sounds like he masturbates A LOT. Quite likely with porn (why he can only finish with extreme acts). There is more info on this site:

http://www.yourbrainonporn.com

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (4 November 2013):

person12345 agony auntNothing wrong with you. It sounds like he masturbates A LOT. Quite likely with porn (why he can only finish with extreme acts). There is more info on this site:

http://ww.yourbrainonporn.com

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (4 November 2013):

Honeypie agony auntDoubt it you, sounds more like he is VERY (or rather too used) to a VERY firm hand. A vagina is not giving the same hard grip (for the most part) as a hand or the anus.

Does he jerk off a lot? Because it sounds to me that he is more "conditioned" to a hand (aka masturbation) then sex involving a woman.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (4 November 2013):

CindyCares agony aunt I don't think you are the problem.

My guess is that your bf masturbates A LOT, but really a lot ( with or without watching porn, I don't know, but my guess is , probably with ).

He trained himself to respond only to very intense, direct stimulation. I think that no vagina can reproduce the supertight grip and superfast speed of vigorous masturbation. Well, of course ,nevetheless coitus has other advantages and charms over masturbation, so for most guys that's not going to be a problem- unless they have sort of desensitized themselves, as I suppose it happened to your bf.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2013):

Hmm, it's very strange. I have no answer to that, I kowy that some men takes a very long time to come.

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A male reader, TrancedRhythmEar Saudi Arabia +, writes (4 November 2013):

TrancedRhythmEar agony auntMight be lack of tightness or psychological on his end.

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