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writes:ive been with my boyfriend a few weeks, its excellent when we are together, and we already really care for each other, we just laugh constantly and get on really well. he has a 4 year old child(i havnt met yet), and is going threw a divorce, is still paying the morgage and bills for his house which his ex and child still live in, for the sake of his kid having a roof over his head. His job isnt stable and so at the moment is struggling with money and paying the morgage, along with his mother constantly on his case, and his best mate. My boyfriend is under so much stress, and now he is starting to be a bit distant from me, saying that this early in thr r/ship its not fair on me to be going threw all this stress with him..im worryd now he is going to end it and not give me and him a chance, afterall we R great, its the constant grief and stress for him and around us. im so worryd and dont no wot to do, iv told him that im always there for him and not to punish our r/ship. Help!
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Take a break go away for a few days you can get a really cheap holiday or even blackpool somewhere you and him can forget your problems for a few days, if he doesnt want to help him distress like run him a bath for when he gets home and make his tea even a romantic meal should distress him. I'm glad you have supported him as not many people would have in you situation.
All the best and good luck.
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reader, binhquangdao  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 he doesn't want u to feel the stress but he cares about u
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 It's lovely that you are being so supportive, but it's only been a few weeks. He's been with his ex for five years. That's a lot of history. If he is still paying for their home and having job problems, he has a lot on his plate. What would he do if she wanted to work it out? What would you do if he wanted to make a go of his family? I'm afraid for your heart that this is what he is thinking when he is pushing you away, so don't be too surprised if he does bring it up. It's pretty hard to walk away from a family, and he might be reconsidering what he is doing. Good Luck Dear. I hope I'm wrong, for your sake, but I hope I'm right for the child's...
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