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writes:My boyfriend is turned on by Trannies. I have caught him by accidentally hearing him having phone sex with a male/shemale. This prompted me to check his profile in a website that I happen to know he's on. (similar to Myspace) Well, this confirmed it. His page was covered with nothing but trannies. His comments, desires, experiences, and confessions about how much he's turned on by them. He refers to them as girls, but his sexual desires all point to the trannies "male" parts and what he wants to do and have done with them. I had the pleasure of discovering all of this on Christmas Eve. I waited a few days to bring it up to him and his response was to go hide at his cousins house for a week and avoid the issue. I have been agonizing over this now for 3 weeks. He admits it only because he's been caught red handed. He totally denies being gay.. (I can't seem to come to any other conclusion) For the most part he's been cold and unsympathetic toward me. He refuses to even try to help me understand. He just keeps telling me to put it behind us. I'm trying , but it's not working. I feel really lonely, confused, and strangely inadequate. There's no WAY I can ever be what he desires. I'm simply not equipped. Does any one have any suggestions on how I can cope with this? I'm not doing so well on my own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): I have a similar situation. I found out my bf is into shemales in the same way, and after a lot of arguments, we eventually talked about it openly. Its now been over two years since then and ive only just begun to understand it. He says he is curious to try anything with a shemale, and is also curious to try receiving stuff from me (strap on) but that he is still happily satisfied in bed just doing standard things with me. But i cant handle that. I feel like i will never be enough, even tho he says he is very happy with me. He said he partly likes the idea because shemales know the male genitals and know how to please him more (he hasnt tried it btw) and the only other reason is because it looks like a female. He simply combines these two facts and there you go - shemale. How the hell can i not feel inadequate??
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reader, Felina  +, writes (10 January 2009):
 Hi there! I really understand you being confused. I was in a similar situation. Recently I found out my bf feels very attracted to other man(not shemale and I think not dressed as girls...). I know he thinks a lot about this, and he told me he had a couple of experiences...At first I was freaked off... Didn't know what to think or do. But then I started to think about it and, well, I know and feel he really loves me, and I know he needed to trust me a lot to tell me about this.I think all humans have a kinky preverted side, hidden secret fantasies. Many straight guys fantasise about other men, but also feel guilty and dirty about it.So I think maybe your bf,after you found out his secret, tried to share it with you. I understand you got scared. When I found out about this I was too. But now it just makes me feel horny. I just love the fact of he being such a sexual and preverted guy, who has no limits to his pleasure, and who shared it all with me.After he told me his secret, I think it opened a door to all our kinky dirty secret fantasies and we have really good moments sharing them.So I think you should take some time to think and understand what's going on with him. Talk to him, ask him what you need. With no pressure and with love and friendship. Maybe share with him some crazy stuff that go on your mind.Did this help?Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2009): My ex was the same way, and believe me he wasn't gay!
He was turned on by them and once in Las Vegas, he actual hired a pro (shemale) while I was with him! It was the worst experience of my life. I think they (men) refer to them as "she" because they are in denial that it is actually guys that look like women, and sometimes quite beautiful women. But it is the fact that they desire the beauty of the female appearance and the male parts. I'm not a psychiatrist, I have no idea why so many guys are into it. But I know it's tough to live with the knowledge and impossible to compete with thier fantasies!
I wish I had some advice for you...You have to decide whether you want to deal with this or not. No one can make that decision for you!
But, Hon, I can relate!
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