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36-40,
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writes:Dear Cupid,I dated this guy for 3 years in high school and without making this a long "pity-me" story, he passed away of brain cancer leaving me crushed. To help me cope I would write pages after pages and poems to release some of my intense feelings.Well it's been four years now, and I have found a new guy whom I love dearly. We recently moved in together and as we were unloading some of my stuff a stash of my old poems fell onto the floor. With innocent intention he opened one up and read it. I never kept my "late" boyfriend a secret but I never dwelled on him, and ever since he found this poem he's been treating me different, acting like I'm still hung up on him. I'm completely over him, not saying that i don't have a heart, it still saddens me to think about him but my heart is completely devoted to my new guy, but I don't know how to tell him this without him denying my feelings.Any advice would be great.Thanks
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reader, catgirl222222  +, writes (5 May 2009):
 It's obvious that your new guy is affected by these letters. It must be a shock to him, because I'm sure your written words would be heartfelt and meaningful and your new guy might be intimidated by your feelings. He might feel like second best compared to your "late" boyfriend and no guy wants to feel like that. Have a real heart-to-heart with your boyfriend, explaining that these poems were a way of releasing your sorrow and trying to get over this death- and if he doesn't listen, write him a poem to show him what he means to you. Keep talking to him until he understands, and make sure he realises he isn't second best with you, and you are completely over your last boyfriend. Good luck.
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