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writes:Ok. I've known my boyfriend for almost four years, we have been dating almost 2 of those years and we are very close. I had my first son six months before we started dating and I no longer am as slim as I would like to be or used to be.He has packed on 100 pounds. He is very unhappy with his self image, I love him, I want him to be happy. But he seems to be struggling with his weightloss and I don't know how to help him.We can't afford dieticians or nutritionist, any advice on how to help him reach his goals? I would also like to lose 20 pounds. Reply to this Question
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (11 November 2010):
largentsgirl89 is verified as being by the original poster of the question He has extremely bad knees to the point of where it's hurting him to walk around on them right now. I personally like fruits and veggies, I feel better when I eat them and I don't drink soda at all. Alcohol, I only drink when he takes me out.He keeps telling me that he can't lose weight while we are together. He works night. I work day. Our schedules don't really go together and I like to work out at night. Before my pregnancy I weighed 118 and that was from being afraid to eat. I feel better when I don't eat.My boyfriend keeps saying he wants to lose weight, last night he said he was going to shoot pool and go to the gym. He went and had a few beers and then just came home because his knees hurt so much.Our schedules just clash with each others and I don't know if I should just go ahead with my plan and let him come around in his own time or if I should push him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): How about doing things together? You don't need nutrionists and a gym membership. Go for walks together, find new hobbies that are active and you can do together without it feeling like hard work. If you can find something you both enjoy it won't even feel like exercise and you'll both lose weight and feel healthier.
With regards to healthier eating, there are some many healthy eating cook books out there with new recipes you can try. Trying new things can be a lot of fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): Go to a website called spark people, it's very good all you need is there.
Firstly and most importantly sort out your diet. I don't mean go on a diet, there's no such thing. But start going over the foods you buy, look for low fat or healthy alternatives. Look up new recipes and start portioning food properly. Get rid of all snacks and get things like nuts, fruit and stuff like that. Make those foods your routine, completely change your eating habits and for good. Stop buying take away and fast food, make them a twice monthly treat only.
Replace soda with juice etc etc.
Get a rowing machine (they're cheap as chips) and a set of dumbells that you can add weights to. These are also very cheap and for less than 100 bucks you will have all you need to get the exact same workout as you would in a gym.
3 times a week 30 mins on the rowing machine is all you need to lose weight. The dumbells can supplement that by helping burn calories quicker and build leaner muscles. You can do a full workout with these in about an hour.
Add that all up and you only have to do 2 1/2 hours exercise a week and with a carefully portioned healthy diet you'll be dropping weight steadily and healthily. That's it it's that easy and you'll see the results so quickly that you'll be dying to do more.
Most importantly of all though go see your doctor and ask them for advice and make sure they say it's okay for you to start exercise.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 November 2010):
 Try any anaerobic excercises, or research Isometric excercises, they help a lot. If you have a skipping rope, use it for at least 20 minutes a day. It will be better for you both if you excercise together. It will give both of you a motive in a way. Drink plenty of water and if you can find any, I recommend drinking one shot of wheatgrass at least once or twice a week because it includes all the nutrients you need. There are various body building excercises you can search up on youtube. I have grown quite fond of some of them, they are better than they seem.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): Hi there!
Thank you for your concern. Health is very very important and so its good you bring attention to it. First and foremost, achieving any weight loss goal requires committment and discipline. I do mean a serious committment and the best thing is, you two can help motivate each other and help one another since you are together. That will help creat the positive spark you need to get going.
Next, focus on changing your diet. A HUGE HUGE mistake people make is eating and drinking at nite. Its okay to eat something healthy and small...but a meal? That can over time cause serious weight gain risks since our body metabolisms slow at nite time when we are at rest. Fruit is highly recommended. I eat a fuji apple and im good to go til breakfast...
That brings me into something else: Sugar. Sugar=Fat and doesnt matter what form sugar comes in thats why diet sodas play a clever disguise. If you have a sugar crave, please try to eat fruit or even trail mix. Trail mix can be salty so what I do is get my own granola and some choc chips and balance that out. The body naturally needs sugar...its normal...but intake is a huge factor with weight that is why Ive known guys to shed 15 pounds alone by just quitting soda.
Also, alcohol. F*** michelob light or bud or any of that...its all a disguise for you to buy in. Sure they have low calories but cutting out those calories completely obviously help you out so its best to just completely avoid anything with alcohol. Malt beverages can be bad too as they both alcohol and SUGAR. Forget "happy hour" during your committment and stick to it. With weight loss, moderation needs to be sacrificed as cutting things completely out of your diet will vastly help you reach your goals quicker and even in a more healthy way as long as you are getting a balanced diet.
Lastly, try to eat small meals and avoid long period (6-7 hours) without eating as those long periods make our metabolisms go into panic so once we eat our body needs the energy quick so it can panic in breaking it down and so thats why we often get those sugar rushes or crashes. Over time that can develop into a serious issue because we are not giving our bodies that steady supply of food. I eat about 5 small meals a day...that take practice and discipline and also a routine. Us humans like routines usually and so its like second nature for me now to say okay time for protein, time for the gym, time for breakfast. Getting yourself into a routine will significantly help you not only to balance out life, but also balance out your stress levels which can also contribute to weight gain.
try to exercise 30 minutes three times a week even if its just walking. When I shed my 40, I killed myself at the gym. I collapsed on a treadmill once from exhaustion and brought to the hospital for dehydration. Stupid? yes. Did my body suffer? Very little. I was back in the gym two days later full throttle. Yes I had pure motivation and a rare motivation for health I might add but I knew what I needed to do for myself so I stuck to it. Dont let shit scare you away...even if its that guy like me at the gym with six plates on the bench bar. Set your own goals and achieve them. Personal trainers can help with this and I know some that give free email advice so let me know if u wish to pursue that.
Pls feel free to msg me. I hope this helps. Best of luck to you both.
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reader, Cj21508  +, writes (10 November 2010):
i think the best solution to that is to tell him to stay positive, give him positive vibes.
- Encourage him to hit the gym, 3 out of the possible 5 working days and maybe the other 2 days just go for a jog.
- Join him too on the jogs or gym time, that way it's a great way to bond and at least he has someone he loves right there with him as he's trying to lose those extra pounds.
- Stay away from fatty foods, fast foods and etc. Those will kill ya and bloat you fast.
- Feed off of each other, that way both of you would want to keep going and live a healthy lifestyle :)
I'm not a professional at this or anything but it's just one of the methods I've been using and it's worked, might not be significant at first but it adds up.
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