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writes:*OP's own title* hey i am 17 and ive been dating my boyfriend for like a year and a few month,and its not that his to nice to me i can deal with that but the problem that he seems a bit to obsessed with me. well yh his nice and i dont mind that about him but its like at first i thought it wasnt that bad but then he started going on about the day we going to get married and planning the day he will purpose to me. then he started talking bout our future kids and i was like wtf um im not ready for that and i dont want to talk bout that.so when it got a bit to much i told him to lay of the future planning and lay of the wedding and kids and us moving in together and just see what happens.for a couple of days it was cool he didnt mention it and all of a sudden he started talking about it again. and its gotten worst he now wants to see me everyday and if im lucky i get at least 1 or 2 days for myself, its just way to much and its not only pissing me off its annoying me like hell. like i used to like him so much and now i just cant stand him and its driving me crazy but i dont want him to do something stupid if i leave him and i dont like hurting people and i cant just tell him its over because he will ask why and ive tried before but it didnt really work coz he kept asking why and i wanted to make him feel like im a bad person and that im evil so i said because i was attracted to another guy then i tried to act like a total b***h but it didnt work so im still with him. now i have the option to move but i dont honestly want to but it would make my life so much easier so i could start up new but id love to get another option because i like where i am right now but i am finding breaking up with him to difficult to do especially when he used to be my friend i dont want anything happening to him but i have to move on with my life as well.so please any one with advice
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reader, HeidiK17 +, writes (15 April 2010):
Don't move just because of him - never let a man control your life to such an extent.
You sound like a nice person as you don't want to hurt him, but nice people tend to be the ones that get hurt. Never stay with someone because you feel sorry for them that is not a good basis for a relationship and you already resent him because this is exactly why you are staying with him. If he has said he will hurt himself if you leave him this is emotional blackmail and you are being held hostage. He has to take responsibility for his own actions and if he did do something daft that is not your fault but his choice. He sounds insecure and needy and would probably benefit from getting some support from someone if you split. Does he have any close friends / family that would support him if you split from him - which you must do. Meet him somewhere public with his and your friends around when you tell him it is over and tell him the relationship has just run it's course. Keep it short and sweet but be firm. Have no further contact with him after this or you will be tempted back through pity. Be strong.
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reader, CaliMoore +, writes (15 April 2010):
 If you really want to dump him, then just sit him down. Explain to him how you feel, about how he's not been giving you enough space, and hows hes ways are pissing you off!
You have to be considerate, he is going to want to talk about it, so let him have his say and just tell me afterwards.. look, i've thought about this, and if you love me enough, you'll let me go, this is what i want.
Even if he tries to really battle it out with you, if you want to end things with him, you only have to speak your mind, and walk out the door! - do want you want with your life, dont let him take control of yours. Good luck, i hope all goes well, feel free to contact me, let me know how you get on :) x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (15 April 2010):
Welcome to being a grown up.
If you are going to have boyfriends, you have to deal with the fact you have to talk to them about things rather than running off and hiding from problems.
So tell him he's pissing you off, and suffocating you and he needs to stop it.
Sort your problems out, and then if it still doesn't work out then deal with the fact you are going to have to dump him and hurt him and he won't like you any more.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, it`s my life...and i choose what i do.......  +, writes (15 April 2010):
my advice to you is let him go dont let some guy chase you out of your home if you let him down gently im sure everything will be ok you can do this and when you do it you wont feel great in the beginig but after a while it will be time for a new slate and you wont be held down anymore i hope you make the right dessision good luck!!!!!!!!!
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