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writes:This summer my boyfriend started trying to do drugs. He had never done anything like that before, which is how I liked it, because I am morally against drugs. However I made myself accept his occasional use. When he got to college, his habit got worse. He was smoking weed a lot, trying shrooms and ecstasy. This is where I hit my breaking point. I finally told him it was me or the drugs. He has kept to his word and stopped. I am letting him smoke once or twice a month.Here's the problem : Even though he has stopped smoking weed all the time, he is still obsessed with it. I mean like infatuation. It's like he loves it like a sport. He researches different kinds on the internet, watches videos, find pictures, talks about them with his friends, on facebook, etc. It's all he talks about. It seems like every conversation we have now has drugs in it. I know that he's not doing them, so I'm trying to just deal with it and pretend I'm OK with it, but honestly it makes me sick. I think he really has an unhealthy obsession with the concept of drugs. I hate it because I hate drugs, and he never used to be like this. But I don't know if this is just a phase, if I should just ignore it and hope it gets better, or if it's really something worth breaking up with him over. I know he's no longer DOING them, so I don't know if I have reason to complain :/ but he's brainwashed by drugs
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Lol. Not to make light of your problem, but I know exactly what he's doing. I was there once too. It is very much like xanthic said, the novelty hasn't worn off yet. Weed culture is actually pretty vast and there is a lot out there about it. It is fun to learn about different strains and such. It is natural that he would want to share this information with someone who he trusts and loves.
What can you do? You can wait it out. This won't last. He'll learn what he wants and then his interest will fade. Still, a good working knowledge of the culture is good for anyone who uses to have. As are the boundries that he'll learn to exercise later as he matures. You can also tell him your feelings and that you don't want to know about that stuff. Tell him flat out that you don't like it and don't want to hear about it all the time. His obsession is beginning to worry you. That may snap him out of it, or at least get him to stop talking about it with you.
He WILL grow out of this. Pretty much every pothead goes through this stage. Give him time. For what it's worth, pot is way less harmful to the body/brain than alcohol with far fewer risks.
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reader, LublyuYa  +, writes (20 October 2010):
Gah, I know how you feel. My boyfriend knows I'm not fond of drugs, and although I on rare occasion smoke weed with him, and he doesn't smoke much anymore either, he is watches legalization videos, watching weed-oriented movies, buying magazines, visiting the popular websites and often brings it into the conversation when it doesn't even fit in. I'm pro-marijuana for medicinal purposes and all that, can't deny those benefits, but doesn't mean I constantly want to hear repeats of what I already know.
Now, I struggle with voicing these kinds of problems, but after two/three months of this it significantly decreased without me saying anything, and I don't hear about it nearly as often. Give him a little while, this is probably just his way of obeying your wishes and dealing with lack of drugs for the time being. It will likely pass in a short while, and if it doesn't THEN I'd talk to him.
Hope that helps :)
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reader, xanthic +, writes (20 October 2010):
 It might just be a phase, it's still new to him and the novelty hasn't worn off yet. Give it some time, but let him know you'd prefer it if he didn't bring the subject up with you. If he gets worse or starts using drugs again, a serious talk and possibly breaking up is going to be necessary.
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