A
female
age
30-35,
*rittany1230
writes:My boyfriends really nice to me when were alone but in public he tends to argue and be mean to me a lot , like at school. I don't know what to do.. A asshole in public is embarasing Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2010): Hey its nothing more then a male ego.He just wants to be superior.You need to tell him that it really hurts you.Some man do fear showing their love in public. They are just not comfortable with it.Make sure you discuss this when you are together (and not on phone.) Just see how he reacts to it. If he feels bad and promises not to repeat it again and does keep his promise. Then it certainly means that he was doin it subconciously and he loves you alot. But if he continues doin it. Then girl think hard. He doesnt love you. Rather laughs at you and takes you for granted.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2010): He feels that by humiliating you or dominating you in front of other people it will reflect on him as having alot of power over you, and people will respect him for it. He sees you as a rival for attention when you're out together, and will cut you down and make jokes about you, trying to appear superior. My wife tries to do that to me, to this day, but I've learned to make a quick retort when she tries, and I'll make her feel the humiliation in the retort, so she can relate to how it is that she's treating me, when she figures she can try to make herself look good at my expense. All you have to do is tell him he's being rude or mean, but in front of those who he's trying to win over attention from. You CAN make him stop, and feel ashamed of what he says or does in public, to you, unless he wants to make himself look terrible in the process by acting out after you remind him of how he's being simple. You don't have to take that from him, but be very calm and gentle when you tell him on the spot, and he'll not only not know what to say to recover, but he'll also learn a little more each time not to do that to you again.
...............................
A
female
reader, kayla20  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 when your alone ask him why he is being horrible towards you and tell him that you dont like it.
...............................
|
