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writes:*OP's own title*Hi everyone, its so much on my mind so my thread is gonna be abit messy because i want to get all the things in once sentence so bear with me :).Ok so.. im 19 years old male, 20 this summer and still a virgin. It started off i guess by me worrying way to much about my penis size, and curvation (upward 45°-50°). Any situations with girls ive avoided, i guess because of my low self confidence, fear of failure or rejection.I want for expl girlfriend, or just to have the dam sex already (im dying here ! :( ) but since all these years of "avoiding talking to girls too much (because i was always afraid it would lead to sex) ive kinda lost my confidence talking to girls, or simply im kinda bad at it.Ive read a threat on this site about curved penis and it made me nearly cry when i heard how people are saying its more of a blessing then a curse, really made me smile so much. ok lets just say i got over that prob, fine but i still have a problem... i NEED to know how to talk to girls, im not asking about a formula here, i just need to know what kind of things girls like to talk about, do they like to talk about intimate things or something that makes them abit uncomfortable (something unexpected or something like that) what do you think , what can you teach me , anything pleas... because i really dont wanna talk about this silly stuff, im not that kind of person i dont like talking chit chat "what school you go to " "how do you like it there" i dont like information grabbing but it seems everyone does it anyways i guess, if it was me i would love if girls came up to me with really crazy convo... something unusual.. but the problem with me is sometimes i dont know what to say,... i sometimes get stuck ... sometimes the conversation stops and makes that awkward silance ... i HATE it so much. Thats why i ask for you guys to help me out, what can i do to make the conversation exiting, alive... not making any silances.Sometimes i just think its bad to be nice person.. really is ... it feels like world is full of bull xxxx when they say its soo hard to find people , feels like you just need to slightly disrispect the girl, or not show her the respect or what ever so you can get the attention from her or interest , but anyways what do i know .. im just saying something hoping you guys can make comments on this.The sad thiing is i KNOW id be good boyfriend, i really would love to have a nice girl in my life who i can share some company with at the moment :), and such a sad thing is that i cant couse of my dam issues with me tlking to them :( , makes me think what am i doing at this age really.... I could write on and on and on about this problem of mine ... i really could but i guess no one wants to read long threads, i think :). If anyone wants some more info or what ever just say so, but pleas comment on this PLEAS :)Thanks guys, hope you can help me live my life !
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reader, Kenj +, writes (14 March 2010):
 Topics can include anything imaginable. Although its best to keep away from heavy subjects like politics, war or past relationships.
Some opening topics could be about yours and her work / school, hobbies, likes, dislikes, ambitions, the weather, favourite movies, things you have in common with her.
Once conversation starts flowing it will usually opens from both sides. It sounds like you need to build your self confidence and this will happen.
Try flirting with women more, for example when your next in a supermarket, get chatting to a female checkout assistant. You dont have to do much to initiate this, can ask her anything like do you like this job. Smile a lot, look at her, listen to her.
The more you flirt the better you will get at it, it will build your confidence ready for real dating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks alot for answering, but what topics do the girls usually go for for expl .. whats soething they like to talk about
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reader, Kenj +, writes (12 March 2010):
Conversation should come natural when you’re with a girl you really like.
When talking about yourself don’t go on too much you will bore them. Be honest, women hate guys who lie (you will be found out and it will be used against you)
A lot of Women love a guy who actually listens to them.
They like a guy who is thoughtful, who will think of them from time to time, surprise them, be spontaneous.
Complement them, but not too much or it will appear fake
Dont smother them, give them space to live their own life too.
Dont just hook up with the first woman with the idea of getting her into bed, unless thats all you want.
Building a good relationship takes time, requires some common ground and trust and respect for each other. Dont expect it to happen overnight, it can take years.
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