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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. 3 months into our relationship he asked if i had been texting boys, he then took my phone and seen 5 boys on my recent contacts that i had been texting but i had deleted the sent and inbox messages, now on my mums life i swear that nothing was going on i know what i did was wrong and i know that i should have told him the truth i really do!! now since then he has been really abusive towards me verbally.. he doesnt let me go out with my friends, he hates when i go to work and always goes crazy when i take extra hours, he calls me a slut talks to me like shit. He is so controlling so to keep him happy i let him go out and get drunk with his friends and i stay in the house and dont see my friends or anything...i am feeling really depressed about the whole situation and dont know what to do!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 March 2011):
DUMP HIM NOW. That's all the advice I have,, and it's the best you'll ever get to deal with someone like this. If you don't, then for the rest of your life you'll be abused.
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reader, Battista +, writes (26 March 2011):
Without doubt you should leave him. He is treating you unacceptably and you need to realise that you deserve better. Please move out and get this man out of your life; you will be far better off without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): I was in a relationship for 8 years with a man who i had two kids by, he was the very same. I have a lot of male FRIENDS and he's always known that i just get along well with lads, anyway exactly the same thing happened, if i got a text from a boy, then i was cheating!! if i got a facebook message then i was having an affair etc... I stopped going out, cut friends out of my life, and lived at home everyday, waiting for him to come home drunk and start a fight.Believe me this is no life, i know because iv'e lived it and now 1 year on i'm in college, have a new boyfriend and i am extremely happy. Leaving him, and not going back to him for the 100th time gave him the kick up the bum he needed to get help. He's now off the drink 6 months after going to rehab, is a waay better father to our kids and has got himself a girlfriend.Start as you mean to go on hun, if he knows he can treat you like this and get away with it then he will. And he will get worse. It's not fair on you or your children. It will be hard for the first few months but once you have the support of friends and family you will be okay. :) best of luck girlie i hope everything works out for you and the kids x
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reader, HeartBlossom  +, writes (26 March 2011):
 I'm very sorry, but you really should leave him. He is a mess, and it's not because of the deleted texts from 21 months ago. There's no way that incident alone would make someone contemptuous, controlling, and verbally abusive so long afterward. None of those things belong in a healthy relationship. He is hurting you--depressing you--and your relationship is really already over. I don't know what has made him this way, but I don't think it's you, and you're going to be much better off on your own. Good luck.
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