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writes: My boyfriend is boring ! We've been in a 1 year relationship in which about 8 months has been distant coz of my voluntary work for a good cause.At d beginning,he would jus melt away even at d sight of me n I could read dat in his face and i loved it though he didn't say much. We met last December fo Christmas n now im headed back.He has turned out so boring,no affection, no communication, everythin's just routine..phonecalls etc,he says he loves me and thats dat, i'm bored as hell but i want him to be my future husband coz he's 'the material' and i love him.But he jus don't satisfy my emotional needs and boring me much.I know he still loves me and he's not the type to cheat even if his feelings change and he is there completely oblivious of wat he makes me feel.Boring! What do I do? P.s I've talked to him about this several times nothin change.(he didn't even realize yesterday was Valentine's day:-C)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2012): do stuffs together.. watch movies.. go play games.. or play video games at home.. do what you both love.. maybe he likes trekking.. go with him..
maybe you like cooking.. cook together..
seriously!!!
That is what people do.. you do stuffs together.. stuffs which help you stay together..
Guys are more physical than.. communicators.. so try to be more physical..
Then you can go out on dates.. sometimes stay at home doing nothing.. have sex.. XD
If that doesn't help.. break up.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 February 2012):
 he’s boring
no affection
no communication
“I’m bored as hell”
He just doesn’t satisfy my emotional needs
He’s boring me
HE loves ME and he’s NOT the type to cheat (are you?)
What do you do? You need to suck it up and END THE RELATIONSHIP.
YOU are bored. And you have talked to him about it and nothing changes… it’s not going to get better… in fact it will get worse….
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2012): He's not the guy for you. You can't change him so don't even try. What you have now is how it will be. So look for someone who fills your needs. He too can then find someone who is right for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2012): Poor bloke, does he know how you feel, that you find him so boring? I am surprised he wants to marry YOU if you don't inspire him to be full of life,happy and even a little affectionate.
Alot of men forget its Valentines Day,not sure how with the advertising it gets,but they do. Has he made it up to you?
To be fair, I don't think this relationships going anywhere, least of all up the aisle, you both seem to be suffering complete dis-interest already, imagine 20 years down the line.You said it yourself, he doesn't meet your needs now and your only dating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2012): Well if he hasn't changed to what you want and need by now he isn't going to if you get married. Why do you want to marry him? He isn't giving you what you want. There are lots of men out there who don't cheat so if that's his only recommendation, address yourself to the competition.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (15 February 2012):
 If someone is boring you and not meeting your emotional needs, they are NOT the one for you.
At the start he was all over you because thats what happens when people meet, they get swept away on the excitement and passion and try to make a good impression. Then after a while things calm down and their true personality shows through.
If you cannot stand the person he is, then you need to find someone else. If, however you choose to fall into marriage with this guy you need to accept that this is how he is and this is who he is and nothing will change just because you want it to.
I don't know what it is with some women. They get their claws into a man, expect him to totally fall all over them but continue to critisize and chip away at him because he isn't behaving how they expect...then they want to marry him anyway because they can't or won't make the effort to find someone better.
Sorry but if you marry this guy, knowing that you find him boring, you are headed for heartbreak and disaster...but I guess you already know that!!
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