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writes:I met my boyfriend in 2006,he is not that rich so i always help him financially. Everything has been okay until this year.He moved in with me,later i saw hemp in his possession and i claimed to have thrown it away. He beat hell out of me and that's the first time,he promised never to do that again. But he has this behaviour of getting angry without reason and this always pisses me off,he threatened to pack his things that I'm frustrating him cos he is living with me. I said i will call his mother to explain,then he beat me up the second time. I forgave him. Yesternite, he said he is going out and i know he has a new girl he's following and asked him where he was going,when he's coming back but he beat me up the third time.What can i do? Can it be the Indian hemp affecting him? Please help me out......
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): It is definitely the Indian hemp. The Jamaican hemp is much 'kinder'. Instead of beating the hell out of you he will just slap you around a bit. No marks or bruises to worry about.
In all seriousness, there is no excuse and he will continue to beat you for one reason or another and the introduction of intoxicants will only intensify the behavior. Pack your stuff and take off.
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reader, Sad Girl !!!  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 Look i no u love him but you need to leave him . he shouldn't be hitting you at all .that just ain't cool .once he hit's you he's going to keep on hitting you . belive me i no.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): I don't think any man has a right to hit a women . there are no excuses for that at all. once a man hit's you once they will say there are sorry. but they still keep doing it. belive me i no.. if you don't leave him now he's going to beat you real bad someday!!
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reader, VictoriaK +, writes (22 March 2010):
 Hemp is a by-product of Marijuana, which from my knowledge does not cause anger, or the hitting of another person. If he is hitting you over such trivial things, then just try and think about what would happen if you did something he REALLY didn't like.....you could end up in the hospital, or worse. I think it's be best for you if you break it off, but please, I cannot stress this enough. When you have men who are abusive, and try to break up with them, they tend to get very angry. So please, please, please bring a trusted friend with you, or do it in a public place so he cannot hurt you any more than he already has. I am very sorry that you are going through this, try to stay positive, and be safe.
Good Luck!!
Victoria K
If you need to talk to someone about this on a more personal level, with someone who has been there before you can PM me at any time, and I will get back to you as soon as possible.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 March 2010):
He's just abusive I'm afraid. Dump him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 March 2010):
 No it is not "just" the hemp affecting him, he is an abusive person. Walk away. Dump the douche bag maybe next time he feels like beating you up, you may not wake up.
Don't let others treat you like that.
THAT is not LOVE.
And Don't try and excuse his rotten behavior on the hemp either.
Get out while you are still alive and breathing.
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reader, Entirely Unique +, writes (22 March 2010):
 I can't seem to understand how you managed to allow him to stay in your life and house after he beat you the first time.
I can kind of accept you gave him a second chance and hoped it was a one time thing but its not, its now been 3 times and in my opinion that's 3 times too many.
When you forgive someone, some people take that as you allowing this behaviour therefore he might feel as he can get away with this then its okay to continue to do it.
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