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writes:Ok my boyfriend of a few months went to Las Vegas for a friends wedding. He'll be gone a week and I'm losing it! We are still in that see each other 24/7 phase. We never go more than an hour or 2 without getting at least a text from each other. Last weekend he actually cried to me about having to leave me for a week and go. At the time I was like, are you serious? Its a week, it's not like you're moving. Well now he's gone a day and I'm losing it!! I am so depressed and I started a fight with him last night because I don't know how to deal emotionally. I have abandonment issues as it is and now with him 2500 miles away I'm becoming more and more insecure. He has given me no reason to not trust him and always makes me feel secure. I know it's my problem but what I don't know is how to overcome it. Please help me cause I have 6 more days to go and I can't stop crying about it.
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reader, lacexoxo22 +, writes (20 December 2008):
 You need to pull yourself together and stop being a []Du$$y! Seriously, its 7 days not 7 months. Give yourself a chance to miss him and let him miss you. How fun is it seeing each other EVERY SINGLE DAY? Texting/calling each other EVERY OTHER HOUR? What could you possibly talk about, that's not something you said less then an hour ago...? That's just ridiculous. Hopefully that will fade with age and experience. If he's given you no reason to suspect cheating or anything else that may harm your "relationship" stop trippin and allow him to enjoy his TEENY TINY vacation away from you. Then when he gets back and you do FINALLY see him, hold him like you haven't seen him in 7 months! For you, that shouldnt be too hard!!!
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 Hi there, I can suggest going to the long distance questions and reading up on some of them - it will probably make you realise that a week apart is nothing...
Also, just try to make yourself busy, cook from scratch in the evenings, go for a run or a fitness session in a gym, clean up the house, arrange your books in a neat order, clean up your computer memory, visit your parents, go out for a meal with friends...
Actually the faster you will learn to get busy while you are apart the better, it wont hit you as hard when he will go away next time. Eventually you will be spending less time together. The chances are that you as a girl are more domestic - you will stay home more, whereas he will start occasionally going out with friends, start playing golf on sundays, that kinda thing. So get busy!
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reader, BurningIce13  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 You should trust him hun. Don't think negatively at all =] At times you might think you trust him but you don't fully yet otherwise you wouldn't be to worried about it.
Put all your trust in and just don't worry about it =] Trust me I know because right now I'm South Africa and my fiance is in the United States, plus she went into the USA Navy a few months ago so yeah...
At first it is extremely hard and unbearable but it will soon become easier and more easier. Seeing each other and being able to talk 24/7 is NOT a good thing in a relationship. This is actually a very good thing for you guys. It brings rewards basically.
You might think this is bad...but it actually is wonderful =] now just imagine how happy you guys will be once he is back.
It will all be completely and totally fine =] You'll see
Your probably going to be thinking of him everyday lots of times during the day. Probably the most at night when falling asleep? Probably hugging your pillow and everything, perhaps a teddy. It will be fine ^^
Your love will be back before you know it. For the time being try keeping busy with other things, specially mentally. Do some fun things :) watch some good movies! hang out with friends perhaps, play games, do fun activities and yeah so on =]
If you want me to go on or anything feel free to let me know =] no problemo
Nooo negative thinking alright. Keep smiling :)
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reader, Crafter  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 Exactly. He never gave you a reason to be suspicious. And to be honest, it's not healthy to rely on somebody else that much. Try harder to be self sufficient. I'm not saying it will happen, but one day he might leave you and then what?
Having a relationship should be like the cherry on top of your ice cream-ish life. If you can't handle your problems alone I doubt that your partner will make much of a difference. If anything, he'll bring further frustration. I'm just being general here.
So what I'm saying is that not being able to spend a week (in your case two hours) without him is not exactly good.
Still, there is nothing to worry about. Find something you couldn't do when you're with him. Draw, read, throw stuff at people on the street. Just get yourself occupied and take your mind off this whole gosh-I-can't-live-a-moment-without-him attitude. He'll be back before you know it.
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