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*inkrebell
writes:my boyfriend of 4 months has recently just admitted to me that hes been cheating on me with another man and hes been getting paid for it and now i dont know what to think or feel please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): Your partner has been cheating on you. That's how you should feel about it.
The fact that he's doing it with another male, or for money, is not as important as the basic infidelity issue.
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reader, rubina +, writes (29 November 2007):
 thank goodness its only four months and not four years into youre relationship. I had a similiar experience with my boyfreind admitting to me that he has been on one night stands in the past with men its confusing. it sounds like youre boyfreind may have a very low self esteem to give himself up in that way for money if i were you i would give him a wide berth and let him alone for a while to sort out his feelings he sounds confused and vulnerable and this cant be easy for you if you can live with the suspicion and not knowing talk to him first give him an ultermatum otherwise forget him move on there are other nice genuine blokes out there ready to be picked youre young have a good time and get on with youre life rubina x
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reader, KittenMagic +, writes (29 November 2007):
 Firstly, you need to make sure that whatever happened was safe - definately get checked out at a health clinic - this is the most important thing, whatever happens it is YOU that you need to look after.
Secondly, speak to him. Ask him why he's done this, is it the money? If this is his way of trying to support himself, encourage him to look for other ways and tell him how this makes you feel. Ask him if he still loves you, or whether it's the man he loves. And then he must choose between you. There is no way that you deserve to be second best and 'share' your man. If this is the case, move on, for your health both physically and emotionally.
Hope this has helped
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