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writes:Hi I have currently been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are very happy together. However, i have major concerns about the age gap. I am 22 and he is 19 years older than me. He is divorced with no children. I am worried that this will cause problems in the near future, but dont want to end the relationship. Any advice?
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reader, andrike +, writes (5 April 2009):
hey girl dont worry about the gap my partner and i have a 20year gap and he has two kids from his first marriage.just talk to him about your feeling because our partners are older they listen and understand alot more than we would expect them to.
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reader, daisy99999 +, writes (26 July 2007):
 wow hunny and i thought my 10 year gap was a problem. well you know what, i really don't think it is, although you have the have lots in common with them and be equally mature! you are still young so don't go making any quick decisions, give it some time and see if you are compatible even with your age difference
good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): That is a pretty big age difference. You are right to think twice about this. Will you still be attracted to him when you are 41 and he is 60? Also any thing else going on that concerns you?
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (16 July 2007):
 Why should it cause problems if you two are happy with each other? I agree 19 years is a bit of a big gap but to have been together 2 years already means that you two work together right?! If you are concerned about what others will think... don't worry about it. Their thoughts shouldn't matter.
Have you talked to your partner about your fears? You may find he shares them too or it might help you overcome them to share them with him.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (16 July 2007):
 Hi there babes,
A 19 year age gap is big I grant you but if you relly love one another then any problems you encounter you will face together.
Does he want children, do you???
This needs to be discussed and sorted out between you both, ll relationships have problems no matter what the age differnce it just depends what you both want from life hun,
Hope this has helped in some way
Take care
Love Donna xx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 You need to sit down and have a nice long chat about what both of you want in your future. With an age gap this large there are special problems. Do both of you want children? When you go out do you enjoy the same activities? Where do you see yourselves in 10 years? 20 years? You both have to be on the same page. Think about this however, in 20 years you will only be 42 and he'll be 61.
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