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writes:I was with me ex for a year and half, we were really close from day 1...then he turned into someone i didnt recognise and thought the grass was greener on the other side and dumped me in march. I knew he was stupid and couldnt understand why he done it. Anyway he text me 3x yesterday and called me saying hes made the biggest mistake and hed marry me 2moro if he could! He really misses me,and wants to go on holiday again with me. It takes a lot for him to show his feelings to im really shocked.I dont know how to take it.Can someone change..its hard for me to trust that he'd stay with me. I know we love each other, we want to meet up with each other and talk. But if I ever go back...Ill make sure he doesnt hurt me again.Im so weary of him now.What shall i do? I know hes genuinely sorry...but it was his fault we broke up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Remember people only change when they want to because old patterns of behavior don't work for them anymore and in fact not changing is actually harder. He has to change for him first and love himself enough to be good to you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): I think you are wise to be leery. I wonder why he dumped you in March and now wants to get back together? You say you are weary of him and don't know if you can trust him. You would do well to listen to your feelings. In any event, I recommend taking it slow - very slow. Don't go on holiday with him at this time. Proceed with caution and if he means what he says, and if you ARE willing to try again - let him show you by his actions (not by what he says, because actions speak louder than words) and see what develops.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 Give him a chance! I broke up with my bf and when I realised what I had done, he took me back and now we're happier than ever! Don't miss out on possible happiness for you just because you are wary of it. Take it slow first and you will gradually be more trusting about the relationship - but absolutly give him a second chance darlin'!xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): give him another chance i broke up with my ex and i knew it was a mistake but i was reallly mad cuz she never gave me a second chance its taken over a month to move on and sumtimes she tells me she still likes me but i dont belive her so dont like my realtionship he truely does mean it
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reader, flower girl +, writes (16 July 2007):
 People do and can change, and sometimes you don't realise what you have got until it is gone.
If you think he deserves a second chance then give it to him but you should also let him know just how much he hurt you and that you will not stand for it again.
Take care.xx.
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