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*eanie0216
writes:My bf of a year hasn't been showing any interest in Sexual activity lately. He's been playing computer games, hanging out with his friends, not working. Just last night he became a little touchy feely with me, and I told him I wasn't in the mood because I was pissed that he hadn't been like this in a while. DO you think it's a sign of anything?
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reader, maria14r +, writes (12 April 2007):
The truth is if you have been doing everything for him then yeah it's a sign that he thinks that you will always do everything for him.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (12 April 2007):
 Let's see. He leaves you alone for a long time to play and hang out, and then when he finally DOES come around you shut him down.
Sign of something? How about "sign of a troubled relationship"?
He's playing the ass by leaving you alone and not paying attention to you. But you did exactly the wrong thing by refusing his advances once he DID finally come to you. How anxious do you think he's likely to be to try again real soon, considering the reception he got the last time? HINT: Try "not very".
You two need to start communication in a serious way or you are headed for has-been city. Next time you can get his butt away from in front of the computer, tell him that you really need to talk to him. Let him know that you're feeling neglected and that you're sorry for the way you treated him when he tried to get romantic the last time. Tell him that you need to work out some arrangement where the two of you can plan to spend MORE time together for just the two of you, with no distractions. If you're going to be a couple, there has to be more than just seeing the backs of one another's heads at computer screens.
Oh, and one thing that worked for my late wife and me ... she moved in to my on-line games, as either my ally or my enemy. And sometimes she kicked my butt! Gave us a LOT to talk about when we went to bed, before, between, and after. ("During" we were MUCH too busy to think about the game!)
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reader, Sparkles  +, writes (12 April 2007):
You dont ay how long it has been since your boyfriend has not shown interest towards you sexually however i believe that any change in any part of your normal routine signifies change in your relationship. This however may not necessarily mean there is a problem and him being touchy feeli last night suggests that he still has feelings for you. I think that the best course of action to take would be to talk to him about his change in attitude. If he ignores you then pherhaps you should reconsider your realtionship and if he really does make you happy. I think that pherhaps some alone time together may also be beneficial, if he has been just playing on computer games and hanging out with his mates then there will be little time for you two to get intimate. Good luck.
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