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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:My friend and then boyfriend of many years doesn't talk to me anymore because I have a job now at first he would tell me I love you at the end of our conversations on the phone now he just doesn't answer the phone his mom lies and says honey he just left or he's not here .I know she's lying for him he's there he just doesn't want to talk to me any more all because I have a job.Now where he lives he just can do much because the job population is shot you have to go other places to work.We were planning on taking a trip to see one another but that's not going to happen now.What could it be? Could it be that I am independent now? And he feels like I don't need him anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2012): Thanks:) you are so right
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (27 September 2012):
 I think you are misreading him. I am making a few assumptions. First your relationship is long distance. Either it has changed to that with your new job, or it always has been. Second I'm guessing that your age is correct as posted and his is similar.
Here is what I think is more likely to be going on in order of probability.
He is getting less time with you because of the job, so he has found someone else to fill in that time.
He is a mama's boy and she has decided that you aren't good for him so she is trying to break you up.
Your schedule has changed and it doesn't fit his needs or he really is not home when you call.
You could also be right, but in any case it come up to the same thing. This relationship isn't working. It's not very good for you to be with a guy with any of these problems, except the schedule conflict.
I really don't think the job is the problem.
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reader, BachelorGreatUncle +, writes (27 September 2012):
"Could it be that I am independent now?"Not as much as he no longer lead you to believe you're dependent on him."And he feels like I don't need him anymore."Not as much as he no longer lead you to believe you need him.He's trying to manipulate you with only weapon he has left, passive-agressive behavior, possibly hoping he can guilt you into quitting job so he can bring you back down to his level in order to regain his control over you.
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