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writes:My boyfriend has repeatedly looked up pictures of a girl he knows. Sometimes while looking at porn, other times while not. We broke up over it a year ago, but I just found him doing it again recently. Does this mean he has feelings for her? I know for a fact she doesn't like him in that way, but I feel like if she did, his actions show he would rather be with her than me. Or is this what most guys do while in relationships?
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reader, Kassi (Nova)  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 Unfortunately this occurred in my relationship once, before I was married. My husband was talking to a woman he'd admitted to being in love with once that he hadn't heard from in years.
After months of being paranoid and catching them talking inappropriately online (not sex, just strong flirting) I found a naked photo of her on the computer.
I nearly ended my relationship with him right then and there. We postponed our wedding for a year after I decided to try and make it work. It still hurts to remember, and I forced him to cut off all communication.
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reader, ?!?!?! +, writes (9 February 2010):
Looking at porn is not that bad almost everyone does it, but looking at ur ex gf picture while looking at porn thats a different story.. there is still something there that he is attracted to in that girl sexauly. if u left him once for it and he still doing it then he dont care about u at all as a person, if i were u get rid of him u deserve much better than that!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): The only reason I can think of why a guy would do that is feelings toward that person. Plain and simple. Unless it's a REALLY hot picture, which I doubt, you have your answer.My question is, if you broke up a year ago, why are you concerned about this?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 February 2010):
Porn is one thing, but looking at pictures of a girl he knows whilst looking at porn is another. You've already broken up because of this, so it's obvious to me he doesn't really care for you that much and he's really into her. I think for your own sake it's best to move on and find a guy who loves you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): Ya thats not right with him looking at his ex gf picture, i would most likely get out of there while u can becasue he most likely still has sexual feelings about that girl
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): Porn is what most guys look at. They are visual beings, they need to look at things to get it off. Many women have a more vivid imagination and get by without porn in that manner. However, looking at pictures of a girl he knows is a red flag. Thats not normal. And not acceptable. Perhaps it is time to reconsider and remember why you ended it with him a year ago.
Either he stop looking at pictures of her (that means deleting all pictures, block from facebook etc etc) and you can only HOPE that he wont keep picturing her in his mind, or you can leave him and find someone who will look at YOUR picture while masturbating.
PS. Id be highly offended if my boyfriend looked at pictures of other girls while masturbating.
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